Do you find yourself in conflicts with somebody close to you, responding from fight or flight? What is happening in those interactions and how do we get out of them?
What happens in our brain when we fall for an untrustworthy person? Trust is the natural default setting of our human brain and the hormone oxytocin plays a role in all of this. So how do we increase our success rate when we have to decide who to trust and who is lying, deceiving or manipulating us?
PSYCH-K® and Shadow Energetics are energy psychology techniques which allow us to effectively shift our beliefs at a subconscious level. Shadow Energetics also works with our emotions and shadow traits to become whole and more heart centred by being able to accept ourselves and others unconditionally.
What is going on when our children seem judgmental of some of the things we do? As parents, we act as mirrors to them, just as they are reflections for us. It is uncomfortable to be at the receiving end of their projections but we need to keep in mind that this is not about us, as much as it feels that way, but it is about what our children have learned to disown; and we may even have taught them to disown that particular trait or energy.
All long-term relationships go through stages. The honeymoon phase makes way to a more challenging stage and from that stage we can advance into the mature love stage. When we learn how to deal with adversity and with our triggers an empowered relationship is the result.
The sisters Elinor and Marianne in “Sense and Sensibility” are each others opposites and learn to embrace a more balanced approach to life only through great heart ache. Where in your life are you out of balance? Integrating your shadows moves you into wholeness, into living a more balanced and fulfilling life.
When we embrace our shadows, we work towards a “happily ever after” in all our relationships. Integrating our shadows moves us into wholeness, into unconditional love of ourselves. As we release our judgments and projections, we develop a natural compassion towards others. It gives us and them permission to be our authentic selves.
When somebody tries to tell you that you are lacking in some way, whether that is physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, remind yourself that they have projected their own fears of not being enough in some way onto you. You mirror to them what they fear about themselves. You are carrying their shadows.
Have you ever been triggered by somebody else being “so ungrateful”? Maybe a child that seemed to be “so spoiled”? I have. For the longest time, that used to be one of my biggest triggers—until I understood something about myself and about gratitude.
Who do you admire and why?
When we have a role model, it is the energy of that person—the traits we perceive them to have—which holds the fascination for us. Our dark shadow is the sum of the traits that we judge in others. Our light shadow consists of the traits that we admire in others and feel that we are not.
Every relationship in our life is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. When we take a closer look, we realize that everybody is a mirror in some way. One of my favourite philosophers when I was studying philosophy in school was Immanuel Kant. I loved his fabulously clear and simple Categorical Imperative,…