To get most out of a couple’s coaching session couples need a target, the motivation to work on the relationship, and the willingness to change. Answering just a few goal-oriented questions allows you to set your target and achieve clarity about your motivation and commitment to change.
Do you have a family member or co-worker who is not responding to what you are saying? Does it feel like they don’t hear you? We can feel so alone and get frustrated when that occurs. The solution is easier than you might think.
Trapped emotions from painful past experiences can literally create an energetic shield or barrier around our heart. 85-90% of all people have a heart shield. The price we pay for this energetic shield is loneliness, disconnect, lack of love, depression. Releasing someone’s heart shield is often followed by connecting deeper with other people and being able to experience more love.
Healthy, loving and empowered relationships sit on four strong pillars: the relationship we have with ourselves, the relationship with others, the relationship between couples and the relationship with our divinity.
Is our love relationship just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love, or is there more? What about shared meaning and the family culture we create together? This culture rests on four pillars: shared rituals, shared goals, shared values and the support for each other’s roles.
Easter is a great opportunity to get in touch with our Inner Child and her or his needs. Our Inner Child is that vulnerable younger part in us which carries our playfulness, our imagination and creativity, our sensitivity, our fears and needs, and last but not least, the ability to be completely in the present moment.
When we embrace our shadows, we work towards a “happily ever after” in all our relationships. Integrating our shadows moves us into wholeness, into unconditional love of ourselves. As we release our judgments and projections, we develop a natural compassion towards others. It gives us and them permission to be our authentic selves.
Doing our inner work is like working away on a beaver dam that blocks the flow of the river of our consciousness. This dam represents all our obstructions and blocks due to our limiting beliefs, fears, emotions and shadows. With each piece of debris we pull out, the river can flow better and we become more whole.
In each partnership, there are perpetual problems. In fact, 69% of problems a couple has are repeats because they are based on fundamental differences in personality, lifestyle, or needs. When we move from judgment into understanding, accepting and a productive dialogue, it does not need to mean the death sentence for a relationship to have unsolvable problems.
Life changing events put a strain on our love relationships. 83% of couples go through a moderate to severe crisis when they become parents for the first time. What distinguishes couples who navigate this time successfully from those who are greatly challenged?
We come into this world open, loving and unguarded, until we learn to protect ourselves. Reconnecting with our true essence simply means reopening our heart to love. It means unity with others, with other people, with nature, with the source of life with all there is.