Have you ever wondered whether your partner is “just not a good match” for you? Is there such a thing as the perfect match? In a close loving relationship we re-create our old unresolved hurts and we receive an opportunity to work through those wounds.
It can be challenging to respond to criticism without defensiveness and to stay open to hearing the complaint underneath. Being criticized can shift our autonomic nervous system into defense mode as if we are being attacked. What techniques can we use to remain open and to hear the complaint or longing underneath the other person’s criticism?
We cannot emotionally complete our past until we are aware of our patterns, habits and beliefs. Without uncovering them, we bring our emotional baggage into the next relationship and repeat the same patterns and issues. The first practical step to achieve clarity is to examine our relationship history.
Why do we often live one relationship after the next with the same patterns and issues? The reason for that is that we don’t learn how to grieve and complete relationships that end and therefore we carry the unresolved emotions forward into the future.
I am sorry are the three most powerful words in the English language if delivered with an open heart and sincerity. A meaningful apology can transform a relationship in a positive way, but an apology can also fall short and have the opposite effect. What constitutes an effective apology?
Is it good to get your negative feelings out? Or does venting have a negative side-effect for our relationship? Positive flooding is a way to re-pattern our brain from feeling unsafe with our partner to feeling loved.
Attachment is an integral part of human behaviour not just in childhood but throughout our entire lifetime. Our learned attachment style is relevant for a variety of relationship situations in adulthood. A secure attachment in our intimate relationship provides a safe heaven for us to be able to be our authentic self.
We probably all hold the archetype of the “picture book perfect family,” like the Waltons, in our mind. But it is 2017, not the 1930’s, and the reality is that we are faced with more complicated family dynamics, other challenges, and different conflicts than the Waltons would have ever dreamed of.
To work on your relationship, you have three options: individual coaching sessions, couples coaching sessions or a workshop. How do individual sessions and couples sessions differ and where do they overlap?