Our personal life story is never just a summary of facts and events. We as the narrator cannot help but interpret what happened. What is essential is how we integrate the facts and events internally into a coherent story which has characters and a plot line that weaves it all together and gives meaning to the events. We can explore how our stories are serving us, but also how they are holding us back. Our stories always reflect the beliefs we have internalized about ourselves, our relationships, other people and the world in general.
My e-mail box is overflowing with e-mail offers for online games, online movie nights, online network meetings, online community meetings, online social gatherings and there seems no end to this. There is a productivity frenzy as everybody seems to be moving lectures, groups and workshops online as fast as they can. And, I freely admit this, I felt myself being pulled into this for a bit and feeling the pressure and rush. But what is really behind this activity and productivity frenzy?
Trying and having difficulties conceiving takes a toll on a marriage or partnership.The challenges around conceiving create different stresses for a couple. More than ever, what the couple needs most during this stressful period is time to connect with each other, beyond fertility. How can you still enjoy life and each other totally unrelated to trying to conceive?
What does a marriage or relationship coach do and how can this help you? Are you struggling with jealousy, anger or an affair? Or do you feel emotionally triggered and unable to communicate successfully? Read more about how coaching could help you individually or with your partner.
If you dare to be happier than your parents, more vulnerable and more intimate with your spouse than they were able to be, you are forging into new territory for your whole ancestral line. You are changing the future for your children and grandchildren, who will have you as new role models. Here are five relationship strategies that help you create a more harmonic intimate partnership or marriage.
When one or both people in an interaction are emotionally triggered, perhaps even feeling extreme anger or rage, absolutely nothing good can come out of continuing the fight or emotionally charged conversation. While we are in fight, flight or freeze mode, we simply cannot problem solve. The time out is like a circuit breaker helping us to get back into a calm, clear, collected, creative and even compassionate state. How do we use the time out most effectively?
A lot of misunderstandings between the sexes are due to the fact that women do not understand the ways in which men’s brains work differently from ours. We expect men to think and act like we do and are disappointed when they don’t. We also tend to give up part of our identity because we do not realize what attracted men to us in the first place.
As humans we crave nothing more than a deep intimate connection with another person, yet, we are at the same time often deeply afraid of reaching out and entrusting others with our fears and needs. We receive our wounding in relationships and our deepest healing also happens within the boundaries of a safe, exclusive, committed and intimate relationship. How can we help our partner to reach out, and how can we find the courage to be vulnerable ourselves?
Are you dating and wondering if the other person is the right long-term partner for you? What is required to assess another person realistically and minimize repeating heartbreak and disappointment?