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Affairs PART 1 – Assumptions Versus Facts

Some of the conventional wisdom about what causes affairs and how to repair relationships are assumptions or myths. Some of the statistical facts in regards to infidelity are surprising and thought-provoking. While some of the myths lead to judgments and are very hurtful for the affected couple, the facts help us to be compassionate with ourselves and others in a situation of betrayal. Read More about “Affairs PART 1 – Assumptions Versus Facts”…

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ADHD, Impulsivity and Women: When Good Intentions Aren’t Enough (PART 3)

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Why can someone genuinely intend to change—and still repeat the same behaviour? In Part 3 of this ADHD series, we explore impulsivity in women, from shopping and relationships to emotional reactions and unfinished projects, and how understanding the ADHD brain can replace frustration and judgment with compassion and practical strategies for creating a pause between impulse and action.

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How to Recognize “Red Flags” in Relationships

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Have you ever looked back on a relationship and wondered, “Why didn’t I see the signs?”
In his book Love Life, relationship coach Matthew Hussey explores why we so often ignore the very behaviours that later hurt us. Attraction, hope, and the fear of being alone can blur our judgment — turning obvious warning signs into things we rationalize, excuse, or romanticize. Recognizing red flags isn’t about being cynical. It’s about understanding patterns, protecting your emotional well-being, and learning how to choose relationships that truly align with your values.

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How to Listen With Empathy

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Do you feel heard and understood by your partner, your family members or closest friends? Do they feel safe with you to share their vulnerable experiences and emotions?
Let’s explore what stops us from having empathy and what skills are required for true empathetic listening.

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Moving Forward After A Betrayal

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Affairs or any betrayal can destroy a marriage. Ironically, they can also strengthen the bond if you do the hard work of recovering after a betrayal and rebuilding a trusting relationship. Here are some steps necessary for the affair recovery and preventing future betrayals.

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Do You and Your Spouse Have Unsolvable Issues?

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Does it sometimes feel like you are having the same fight over and over again? Perhaps your repeated disagreements involve money, work, neatness at home, sex, your extended family, housework, the children, religion, health or different social needs—the list is endless. If you are worried that these issues will break your relationship apart, don’t be. Here is what is going on with these perpetual conflicts and what is required from you and your partner.

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Which Is Your Conflict Style, and Which Is Your Partner’s?

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Conflict is not just unavoidable but also necessary to work through issues. In our family of origin, we learn beliefs about conflicts and fighting and how to express our emotions. Conflict experiences with our family and previous relationships shape our “fighting style” or “conflict style.” Learn about three “healthy” and two “unhealthy” conflict styles that Drs John and Julie Gottman distinguish and determine your and your partner’s styles.

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Are You Afraid of Anger and Conflict?

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We have learned to look at anger as something negative. We feel ashamed of anger and often perceive conflict as an issue that must be avoided. Conflict is not just unavoidable but also necessary for our relationships. Research has shown that conflict and anger provide opportunities for greater intimacy and deeper connection for couples.

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