While you can’t have relationships without disappointments, you cannot have a solid love relationship without trust. Any upsetting surprise or discovery that makes us feel vulnerable, hurt or unsafe can be experienced as a betrayal and break of trust. One way in which trust issues enter a relationship is when there are significant differences between the partners in background, personality or preferences. Another risk factor for mistrust is a situation of unequal power. The worst trust killer is when one partner is less open than the other.
How do you express a need or wish most successfully to your partner? Saying “I need you to…”, will most likely result in your partner feeling he or she has no choice. They might feel cornered, resistant and get defensive as there is no room to move. Read how you can communicate your needs, for example the wish for them to attend couples sessions with you, more successfully. And what can you do when he or she still refuses?