Who loves adversity and especially a crisis like the one we are all facing right now? Right! Our Inner Critic! Our Inner Critic is that nagging voice inside, which is trying to protect us by letting us know in which ways we are “faulty” or not doing enough. No matter how well we are doing, the Inner Critic will find something that apparently needs to be improved, and it loves to compare us to others who are supposedly doing better or more.
The COVID-19 situation has disrupted our daily routines, affected our finances and is challenging our relationships. The crisis has changed everything we used to consider “normal”. This exceptional situation is an opportunity to work on our fears, learn how to release our emotions and improve our relationships, especially our closest partnerships or marriages. Here are some examples for subconscious beliefs we might need to change, emotions we might need to release or conversations we might want to have.
What does a marriage or relationship coach do and how can this help you? Are you struggling with jealousy, anger or an affair? Or do you feel emotionally triggered and unable to communicate successfully? Read more about how coaching could help you individually or with your partner.
If you dare to be happier than your parents, more vulnerable and more intimate with your spouse than they were able to be, you are forging into new territory for your whole ancestral line. You are changing the future for your children and grandchildren, who will have you as new role models. Here are five relationship strategies that help you create a more harmonic intimate partnership or marriage.
When one or both people in an interaction are emotionally triggered, perhaps even feeling extreme anger or rage, absolutely nothing good can come out of continuing the fight or emotionally charged conversation. While we are in fight, flight or freeze mode, we simply cannot problem solve. The time out is like a circuit breaker helping us to get back into a calm, clear, collected, creative and even compassionate state. How do we use the time out most effectively?
We all have protective strategies which keep us from feeling vulnerable. Unfortunately, these dynamics cause damage to a relationship. Terry Real names five losing strategies in relationships. The first step of changing destructive interactions is to understand your partner’s protective mechanisms but more importantly what your own defaults are.
Being on a rainy and muddy hike I had the best experience of being held, supported and loved. Are you experiencing mutual support in your primary relationships? How do we create that experience for each other and heal any past traumas together?
The six second kiss is a beautiful way of connecting. Kissing releases oxytocin and dopamine. These hormones help us to bond and feel safe. Tender kisses also reduce cortisol and are therefore very beneficial for our health. What other rituals can you establish and why are rituals so important for our relationships?