We probably all hold the archetype of the “picture book perfect family,” like the Waltons, in our mind. But it is 2017, not the 1930’s, and the reality is that we are faced with more complicated family dynamics, other challenges, and different conflicts than the Waltons would have ever dreamed of.
Is our love relationship just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love, or is there more? What about shared meaning and the family culture we create together? This culture rests on four pillars: shared rituals, shared goals, shared values and the support for each other’s roles.
The sisters Elinor and Marianne in “Sense and Sensibility” are each others opposites and learn to embrace a more balanced approach to life only through great heart ache. Where in your life are you out of balance? Integrating your shadows moves you into wholeness, into living a more balanced and fulfilling life.
When we embrace our shadows, we work towards a “happily ever after” in all our relationships. Integrating our shadows moves us into wholeness, into unconditional love of ourselves. As we release our judgments and projections, we develop a natural compassion towards others. It gives us and them permission to be our authentic selves.
Life changing events put a strain on our love relationships. 83% of couples go through a moderate to severe crisis when they become parents for the first time. What distinguishes couples who navigate this time successfully from those who are greatly challenged?
We come into this world open, loving and unguarded, until we learn to protect ourselves. Reconnecting with our true essence simply means reopening our heart to love. It means unity with others, with other people, with nature, with the source of life with all there is.