Hal and Sidra Stone are consciousness teachers who have really applied their teachings to their own relationship, respectively have arrived at what they teach about relationships through their own relationship work. An area in which we are most vulnerable when we are in a relationship is monogamy versus having affairs. We can get very hurt…
Category: Shadow Work
Carrying Your Partner’s Disowned Shadow
Partners very often carry each other’s opposite energy and have polarized into the two. My parents carried each other’s disowned energy. My mother was the emotional one, the one with all the passion and the one making and keeping all the social contacts. She was also the one who liked to spend money and the…
Who is the Black Sheep of Your Family?
In families and in relationships, we carry each other’s shadow sides, usually without being aware that this is happening. We are convinced that the other person is what we are not. Meanwhile ALL energy is in all of us, we have just disowned and pushed away a certain part of us. The energy we push…
Wicked – Shadows Everywhere
With Halloween upon us, it’s a time to reflect on our shadows. Befitting the season, I went to see the musical “Wicked”. What a clear shadow story that musical presents to us! Glenda, the Good Witch, and Elphaba, the Wicked Witch of the West, carry each other’s shadow sides. Glenda is blonde, beautiful, ambitious, superficial…
Every Relationship is a Mirror
Every relationship in our life is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. When we take a closer look, we realize that everybody is a mirror in some way. One of my favourite philosophers when I was studying philosophy in school was Immanuel Kant. I loved his fabulously clear and simple Categorical Imperative,…
The Inner Wolf
All energy that’s outside in the world is inside of us. We all have traits we like about ourselves and others that we don’t like. We are all “good” and “bad”. It is as if we hold white wolves and a black wolves inside us. Should we feed the white wolves or the black?
Imagine This
“Imagine this. One day, our children will learn about love at school. They will take classes in love and self-esteem, explore the meaning of “I love you,” learn to listen to their hearts, and be encouraged to follow their joy. It will be normal for parents to help their children learn how to love and…
Beyond the Labels of Right and Wrong
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. – Rumi This frequently quoted poem brings up an interesting question: Can we ever truly know the motivations others had when they did something or didn’t do something? Can we ever claim they are wrong and we are right? We…
Responsibility for Co-Creating ALL Our Experiences
Mother’s Day—like Christmas—seems to be one of those days which are heavy with expectations and emotions. When asking my clients how their mother’s day weekend unfolded, it didn’t surprise me all that much that a few people experienced disappointment when their own limiting beliefs surfaced. Those beliefs range from “I am not appreciated” to “I…
The Magic Potion to Create Harmonious and Loving Relationships
Are you struggling with your relationship with a particular family member, perhaps with a parent, sibling or child? Is your marriage or partnership not harmonious or truly loving? Are you single and do you want to attract a romantic relationship into your life? Are you getting separated or divorced, and do you want the transition…
Our Baggage Does Not Need to Weigh Us Down
The short film “Baggage” by Ivan Kander is the story of a special kind of baggage counter. People line up at this counter to check in their emotional issues. There is the woman whose partner cheated on her after six months, the man with a messy divorce, the girl who checks in the latest “walk…
An Opportunity to be Someone Different
Each Halloween is an opportunity to express our fantasies and to play like children—even for just one night. We light up the darkness with pumpkins—some of them masterfully carved. We can step out of who we are and try on “another skin,” show up completely differently. Allow our playful side, our ugly shadow, or our…