When we shift perspectives and walk a mile in somebody else’s moccasins, we realize that nothing is what it seems. Our shoe might pinch in one spot, somebody else’s shoe in another.
Category: Shadow Work
The Patriarch and Matriarch Within
How do gender stereotypical subconscious beliefs still affect women and men, and hold us back from being whole human beings? Sidra Stone writes about how women’s feelings, thoughts, careers, sexuality and relationships are all subconsciously influenced by an inner voice, called the Inner Patriarch, echoing thousand years of patriarchal beliefs. What about men? Do they have an equivalent inner voice that holds them back?
Love is the impulse towards unity. Because Love dissolves all separation and smoothes all chaos it is a powerful healing energy and the one catalyst for transformation. When our heart is full of love there is no room for fear-based emotions. We instinctively know the truth of who we are. There is no doubt that we are perfectly lovable and absolutely enough exactly the way we are. We can connect with our blue-print of perfect health and perfect happiness.
Sometimes an experience, especially a traumatic one, leaves an emotion behind in our body. Instead of simply experiencing the feeling and moving through it, the energy of the emotion becomes trapped in the physical body. These trapped emotions can cause disruptions in our relationships, as well as physical pain, dysfunction and even disease.
What is Our Light Shadow?
Who do you admire and why?
When we have a role model, it is the energy of that person—the traits we perceive them to have—which holds the fascination for us. Our dark shadow is the sum of the traits that we judge in others. Our light shadow consists of the traits that we admire in others and feel that we are not.
The Perfect Mother
Nobody and nothing can prevent us from truly loving ourselves. It is our job to love ourselves; nobody can do it for us! No amount of love from the outside can penetrate through if we do not take the cape of self-judgment, self-loathing or even self-hatred off.
The See-Saw Effect – What You Suppress Your Partner Will Express
We disown certain energies because we have learned it is “bad” to feel or be a certain way. However, whenever one person is trying to bury an emotion, somebody else will express it for them. The more closely connected these two people are, the more they are able to feel and experience each other’s emotions.
The Dance of Our Parts in Relationships – PART ONE Primary Personality Parts
“Relationships don’t die a natural death. They are murdered by either ego, attitude or ignorance or all of the above.” (Rose Saroyan, Karmic DNA) My friend Rose Saroyan couldn’t have said it better. My own marriage to the father of my daughters died the death of ignorance and a good portion of ego—mostly my…
There are two words in the English language which have an almost magical power. They make us feel appreciated and valued, they bring a smile to people’s faces and they can completely change the energy between two people. We can use them with our family; we can use them with our friends; we can use…
At the Other Side of Each Shadow…
I had an interesting choice to make just recently, and with it came a bit of a light bulb moment. I had the opportunity to point out to somebody that they are out of integrity and that they are justifying their actions by using what one might call spiritual jargon. Like everybody, I have a…
Who is Darryl Gurney?
When we have decided we want to learn a technique and take a class it is not always easy to choose which teacher or instructor is right for us. Some of us just need to look at a photo of a person and we can feel the energy, others might want to do a bit…