Do you find yourself in conflicts with somebody close to you, responding from fight or flight? What is happening in those interactions and how do we get out of them?
Category: Relationship Coaching
I’ve Got You
Being on a rainy and muddy hike I had the best experience of being held, supported and loved. Are you experiencing mutual support in your primary relationships? How do we create that experience for each other and heal any past traumas together?
Why Do Men Always Change?
A lot of misunderstandings between the sexes are due to the fact that women do not understand the ways in which men’s brains work differently from ours. We expect men to think and act like we do and are disappointed when they don’t. We also tend to give up part of our identity because we do not realize what attracted men to us in the first place.
The Six Second Kiss And Other Rituals of Connection
The six second kiss is a beautiful way of connecting. Kissing releases oxytocin and dopamine. These hormones help us to bond and feel safe. Tender kisses also reduce cortisol and are therefore very beneficial for our health. What other rituals can you establish and why are rituals so important for our relationships?
A.R.E. you there for me?
As humans we crave nothing more than a deep intimate connection with another person, yet, we are at the same time often deeply afraid of reaching out and entrusting others with our fears and needs. We receive our wounding in relationships and our deepest healing also happens within the boundaries of a safe, exclusive, committed and intimate relationship. How can we help our partner to reach out, and how can we find the courage to be vulnerable ourselves?
How Do I Accurately Assess a Potential Relationship Partner?
Are you dating and wondering if the other person is the right long-term partner for you? What is required to assess another person realistically and minimize repeating heartbreak and disappointment?
Jealousy PART 2 – Working Through Jealousy and Fear
How can a couple work through issues of jealousy together?
Jealousy PART 1 – “It’s ridiculous how jealous she is!”
Jealousy is the fear that a special relationship we have with somebody is threatened. We fear that our partner, family member or friend will form a closer relationship with someone else and that we will be excluded or abandoned. Jealousy can be understood based on our evolutionary history as humans and our own personal past experiences.
Expressing Criticism So It Can Be Heard
Why does criticism so often feel like we are being stabbed in the heart? Historically being criticized could lead to being ostracised from our tribe, and that could mean death. Our more instinctive parts of our brain still operate on that fear. However, relationships require us to communicate honestly and to handle criticism constructively. How does one express a complaint in a way that it can be easily heard and does not feel like being stabbed in the heart?
Can I Come in with My New Girlfriend?
What topics should we talk about at the start of a relationship? Relationship coaching helps you and your new love to learn to communicate about challenging topics and to learn to hold each other in those vulnerable moments we all experience. Coaching allows you to become aware of old patterns and to release them. What kind of topics can you explore at the start of a relationship either with a coach or by yourselves?
Courageous Love
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Relationships Are Like Bicycles
Relationships grow and change. Long-term relationships or marriages want to be not just created but taken care of along the way. In fact, these relationships are like bicycles in more than one way.