It’s that time of the year again: back to school and back to homework. How do we as parents best support our children? I am sharing the blog space for today’s post with my fabulous colleague and fellow mother Mary Strachan who is the founder of Fresh Perspectives, a Parenting Coaching Service.
Sometimes we underestimate periods of transition in our life. We are getting married, having a baby, melting two families, getting a promotion; our children move out, or we are retiring. All these are usually “happy” events. Yet, transitions can shake us, they require adjustments. They can trigger emotions and fears. They might bring limiting beliefs up to the surface. They are a beautiful gift, an opportunity to do our growth work.
10% of Canadian families with children are step-families. Coming together in a melted family is like breaking old pots of pot bound plants open and giving the family members, especially the children, a place to grow which is more expansive than their previous life. What do all the family members need for optimal growth?
Comparing parenting styles in Great Britain and Germany to Canada
clearly shows each country or culture has different values for parenting. What seems right in one culture might be frowned upon in another. Are there any common points independent of the culture that one might want to consider for parenting and/or step-parenting?
For me, a holiday is a vacation away from home, from work, from obligations, but most of all it is a vacation away from my planner self. A perfect invitation to live in the moment, to “wing it”, to allow wonderful surprises to unfold, to live in the moment, to embark on an adventure…
Rapid long-distance travelling across east-west or west-east transmeridians disrupts our inner circadian rhythm. The condition of jetlag can last several days until one is fully adjusted to the new time zone. Does Earthing help to adjust?
In order to communicate most successfully, we need to move beyond needing to be right and beyond making the other person wrong. If we want our feelings and needs to be respected, we need to stop judging other people’s feelings and needs and begin to truly accept and respect them.
How do gender stereotypical subconscious beliefs still affect women and men, and hold us back from being whole human beings? Sidra Stone writes about how women’s feelings, thoughts, careers, sexuality and relationships are all subconsciously influenced by an inner voice, called the Inner Patriarch, echoing thousand years of patriarchal beliefs. What about men? Do they have an equivalent inner voice that holds them back?
By allowing others to cross our boundaries, we are saying to ourselves that we are not worthy of our feelings being addressed and our needs being met. We are not treating ourselves with love and respect. Daring to set boundaries means having the courage to love ourselves, instead of pleasing others out of fear that they won’t love us anymore.