“Them versus us”, or “me versus him/her” mentality means we are choosing separation and judgment over unity, compassion and healing.
Each relationship with another person is a journey which also contains moments of disillusionment. We have the choice to allow the loss of our illusions to make us cynical, or to give ourselves permission to lead relationships which are more real.
When somebody tries to tell you that you are lacking in some way, whether that is physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, remind yourself that they have projected their own fears of not being enough in some way onto you. You mirror to them what they fear about themselves. You are carrying their shadows.
It’s that time of the year again: back to school and back to homework. How do we as parents best support our children? I am sharing the blog space for today’s post with my fabulous colleague and fellow mother Mary Strachan who is the founder of Fresh Perspectives, a Parenting Coaching Service.
Sometimes we underestimate periods of transition in our life. We are getting married, having a baby, melting two families, getting a promotion; our children move out, or we are retiring. All these are usually “happy” events. Yet, transitions can shake us, they require adjustments. They can trigger emotions and fears. They might bring limiting beliefs up to the surface. They are a beautiful gift, an opportunity to do our growth work.
10% of Canadian families with children are step-families. Coming together in a melted family is like breaking old pots of pot bound plants open and giving the family members, especially the children, a place to grow which is more expansive than their previous life. What do all the family members need for optimal growth?
Comparing parenting styles in Great Britain and Germany to Canada
clearly shows each country or culture has different values for parenting. What seems right in one culture might be frowned upon in another. Are there any common points independent of the culture that one might want to consider for parenting and/or step-parenting?
For me, a holiday is a vacation away from home, from work, from obligations, but most of all it is a vacation away from my planner self. A perfect invitation to live in the moment, to “wing it”, to allow wonderful surprises to unfold, to live in the moment, to embark on an adventure…