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Category: Inner Child Work
What keeps us stuck in a feeling of “unworthiness”, of “being a failure”, is not the mistake we have made but the lack of self-forgiveness and self-compassion. The feeling of “not being good enough” has its foundation in shame. The only way out of that swamp of shame and fear is through self-love and self-acceptance.
Self-Compassion – Luxury or Necessity?
I ask, “How are you?” She replies, “Not that great. I have been feeling really down for the last two weeks. It all feels futile. I have failed in so many ways.”
The “I’m not good enough” story is almost universal. It is our default program but there is something we can do to alleviate this Inner Critic voice.
Taking Care of Our Vulnerable Feelings and Needs
Easter is a great opportunity to get in touch with our Inner Child and her or his needs. Our Inner Child is that vulnerable younger part in us which carries our playfulness, our imagination and creativity, our sensitivity, our fears and needs, and last but not least, the ability to be completely in the present moment.
By allowing others to cross our boundaries, we are saying to ourselves that we are not worthy of our feelings being addressed and our needs being met. We are not treating ourselves with love and respect. Daring to set boundaries means having the courage to love ourselves, instead of pleasing others out of fear that they won’t love us anymore.
Do you truly love, honour and respect yourself?
Being in touch with our inner child is a key piece in learning to truly love ourselves, to be comfortable with our feelings and lovingly taking care of our needs. A caring relationship with our inner child is necessary to be vulnerable, to trust others and to have truly intimate relationships.
The Perfect Mother
Nobody and nothing can prevent us from truly loving ourselves. It is our job to love ourselves; nobody can do it for us! No amount of love from the outside can penetrate through if we do not take the cape of self-judgment, self-loathing or even self-hatred off.
The Dance of Our Parts in Relationships – PART 2 Bonding Patterns
To understand how we interact with our spouse or partner, we need to know about our inner children and about bonding patterns. BONDING PATTERNS Bonding patterns are basic units of interaction between people. The primary bonding pattern emerges at birth between the child needing nurturing and the mother giving nurturing. Our primary bonding patterns with…
The Dance of Our Parts in Relationships – PART ONE Primary Personality Parts
“Relationships don’t die a natural death. They are murdered by either ego, attitude or ignorance or all of the above.” (Rose Saroyan, Karmic DNA) My friend Rose Saroyan couldn’t have said it better. My own marriage to the father of my daughters died the death of ignorance and a good portion of ego—mostly my…
Tender Loving Care
I have been feeling under the weather for the last couple of days and have been observing how it affects me to feel this way. There is nothing like being sick with a cold that brings out the inner child in us. It makes us feel miserable, vulnerable and slightly overwhelmed. When my girlfriend called…
The Essential is Invisible to the Eyes – Understanding the Concept of the Inner Child
We all have an inner child; a little girl or boy inside. This is our vulnerable and loving self that we are born with. In our society, it is part of the process of growing up that our power selves, like the successful self, the intellectual self, the controlling self, the angry self, the perfectionist…
No Mothers Out There
No Mothers The search for Mother has ended. The story of Abandonment is over. The too-good-mother has vaporized into the idea that she was. No mothers are forthwith. No mothers on order. No mothers in back pockets, to pull out at eleventh hours, when all seems lost. No surrogate mothers. No hand me down mothers….