If my mom was still alive, she would have turned 90 just recently. There are many ways in which we can process a loss and carry on a loved one’s legacy. They might have taught us something or embody something worth continuing. Or there are things they have done or not done that you decide to do differently. That, too, is their gift to you. In fact, both might be the case. Processing a loss often includes being comfortable with ambiguity.
Who loves adversity and especially a crisis like the one we are all facing right now? Right! Our Inner Critic! Our Inner Critic is that nagging voice inside, which is trying to protect us by letting us know in which ways we are “faulty” or not doing enough. No matter how well we are doing, the Inner Critic will find something that apparently needs to be improved, and it loves to compare us to others who are supposedly doing better or more.
My e-mail box is overflowing with e-mail offers for online games, online movie nights, online network meetings, online community meetings, online social gatherings and there seems no end to this. There is a productivity frenzy as everybody seems to be moving lectures, groups and workshops online as fast as they can. And, I freely admit this, I felt myself being pulled into this for a bit and feeling the pressure and rush. But what is really behind this activity and productivity frenzy?
February is heart month and with today’s article and podcast we want to bring some awareness to what to do to keep our heart happy and healthy. My colleague, Naturopathic Doctor Felicia Assenza, and I are talking about gratitude, exercise, food and connections.
It has been imprinted on our psyche that holidays are the time to spend with our family and loved ones. But what if we are still grieving the loss of a family member who has passed, or we live in a split-up family, or we cannot seem to make the dream of a family come true, or we are experiencing the loss of our health, our job, our pet, our home and so on? How do we get through the holidays when they deepen our sadness and magnify our pain.
Trying and having difficulties conceiving takes a toll on a marriage or partnership.The challenges around conceiving create different stresses for a couple. More than ever, what the couple needs most during this stressful period is time to connect with each other, beyond fertility. How can you still enjoy life and each other totally unrelated to trying to conceive?
While a woman consciously wants a baby, her subconscious might be preventing her from getting pregnant. Studies indicate that psychological and emotional blocks are the root of many infertility issues. What issues, fears, beliefs and emotions can prevent conception?
What if we would not just strive to consciously create fulfilling and well functioning relationships, but also create break-ups “where neither party was blamed or shamed yet where both people were left valued and appreciated for all that they’d given one another” (Katherine Woodward Thomas)?
We cannot emotionally complete our past until we are aware of our patterns, habits and beliefs. Without uncovering them, we bring our emotional baggage into the next relationship and repeat the same patterns and issues. The first practical step to achieve clarity is to examine our relationship history.
Why do we often live one relationship after the next with the same patterns and issues? The reason for that is that we don’t learn how to grieve and complete relationships that end and therefore we carry the unresolved emotions forward into the future.
Why do we interact in an addictive way with certain substances or activities? What is going on with these behaviours? Addictive behaviour is often established in early childhood. As parents, grand-parents and educators we can make a huge difference for the next generation if we understand how addictions begin.
Trapped emotions from painful past experiences can literally create an energetic shield or barrier around our heart. 85-90% of all people have a heart shield. The price we pay for this energetic shield is loneliness, disconnect, lack of love, depression. Releasing someone’s heart shield is often followed by connecting deeper with other people and being able to experience more love.