Have you experienced a breakup of a love relationship and you are still trying to come to terms with it? Any major life change requires us to find our footing again and to refocus on making new joyful memories. Let’s look at what is going on when you still miss your ex and how you can best navigate this post-breakup terrain.
What if we would not just strive to consciously create fulfilling and well functioning relationships, but also create break-ups “where neither party was blamed or shamed yet where both people were left valued and appreciated for all that they’d given one another” (Katherine Woodward Thomas)?
Why do we often live one relationship after the next with the same patterns and issues? The reason for that is that we don’t learn how to grieve and complete relationships that end and therefore we carry the unresolved emotions forward into the future.
Trapped emotions from painful past experiences can literally create an energetic shield or barrier around our heart. 85-90% of all people have a heart shield. The price we pay for this energetic shield is loneliness, disconnect, lack of love, depression. Releasing someone’s heart shield is often followed by connecting deeper with other people and being able to experience more love.
I ask, “How are you?” She replies, “Not that great. I have been feeling really down for the last two weeks. It all feels futile. I have failed in so many ways.”
The “I’m not good enough” story is almost universal. It is our default program but there is something we can do to alleviate this Inner Critic voice.
“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner!” (Max Lucado)
When you finally forgive someone you release the energetic connection to that person or past event.
Exactly three years ago today, my mom passed on. She is never far away and continues to live in our memories, in our stories and traditions. The next two generations, her children and grandchildren, carry her legacy as consciously as we can. Some of her pieces of clothing or jewellery remind us of her all…
Nobody and nothing can prevent us from truly loving ourselves. It is our job to love ourselves; nobody can do it for us! No amount of love from the outside can penetrate through if we do not take the cape of self-judgment, self-loathing or even self-hatred off.
All feelings are good! Our emotions are our guidance system. All feelings and emotions give us feedback on what is going on. When you or somebody else feels angry, there is usually some other emotion underneath the anger. That deeper emotion or need has to be addressed. Just as we know we need to feed ourselves when we are hungry, we also need to feed other emotions or needs.
If you leave a print of your five fingers on a glass or a mirror, you see five separate dots. On the level of the glass, your fingers appear to be completely unattached to each other. However, on the higher level of our three-dimensional perception, we can see that all five fingers are connected to…