Clinical psychologist Joanne Davila names three core skills we need to develop to have long-lasting and successful romantic relationships. What are those skills, and how do they lead to “romantic competence”?
I Mustn’t Be a Burden – Emotional Avoidance
Emotional connections are the glue that ties us to others and holds our relationships together. Sharing and receiving emotions is the fuel that keeps our love relationships going. A romantic relationship rests upon the vulnerable emotional connections we allow. When we have learned to be emotionally avoidant, we cut ourselves off from what makes life full and joyful.
How to Stop Feeling Resentful
Resentment towards our partner is the accumulation of lingering feelings we have from previous unresolved conflicts and unfulfilled needs. If resentment is being ignored and suppressed, it tends to grow. It creates a toxic atmosphere. We can let the resentments fester and allow them to poison our relationships, or we can learn how to work through them. Here are two processes to work through resentment.
EXPRESSING CRITICISM: How Do We Phrase a Successful I-Statement?
When expressing our thoughts and feelings we need to use I-statements. Unfortunately, an “I statement” can also be twisted into criticism. Here are three examples of how to phrase successful I-Statements that do not make the other person defensive.
Turning Feelings of Guilt into Gratitude
Have you felt bad or guilty because you seem to have it much better than others, perhaps better than your partner or another family member? How do we turn these feelings of guilt into something useful and beneficial?
Feeling Stuck in a Situation? – Ask These 5 Questions
Sometimes we feel completely stuck in a situation, out of control and helpless. Yet, five simple questions can shift our perspective and allow us to see our choices, feel more in control and empowered.
Anxiety – Using the Havening Technique
Anxiety levels among children, teens and adults are higher than ever before. Here is an effective method to quickly calm the nervous system and bring down anxiety levels.
The COVID-19 Situation Challenges Our Beliefs, Emotions and Relationships. How PSYCH-K® and Other Tools Can Help.
The COVID-19 situation has disrupted our daily routines, affected our finances and is challenging our relationships. The crisis has changed everything we used to consider “normal”. This exceptional situation is an opportunity to work on our fears, learn how to release our emotions and improve our relationships, especially our closest partnerships or marriages. Here are some examples for subconscious beliefs we might need to change, emotions we might need to release or conversations we might want to have.
A Meditation and Other Self-Care Tips to Ease the COVID-19 Anxiety
Fear compromise our immune system. How do we stay calm, centred and feel safe in these uncertain times of the corona virus? Here are some self-care tips and a meditation.
The AWARE Approach to Anxiety
Mood and anxiety disorders are among the most common types of mental disorders and have a major impact on the daily lives of those suffering from it. What can be done to address anxiety successfully? Author David A. Carbonell, PhD suggests five steps called the AWARE method.
Steps to a Happy Healthy Heart
February is heart month and with today’s article and podcast we want to bring some awareness to what to do to keep our heart happy and healthy. My colleague, Naturopathic Doctor Felicia Assenza, and I are talking about gratitude, exercise, food and connections.
The Mind Body Connection
A sprained ankle, back spasms, headaches… A physical injury is never just a physical injury. Conversely, an emotional issue will always have a physical imprint. To heal the body, mind and spirit a multi-faceted approach which explores all sides of an issue is required. When physical treatments, like osteopathy, are accompanied by emotional/mental work and vise versa, faster healing is ensured.