Triangles occur in all kinds of families and are a very destructive force for relationships. More and more people these days get divorced and remarry. Stepfamilies have a built-in potential for jealousy, competition, loyalty conflicts, and the creation of painful triangles. That experience can go hand-in-hand with one partner being unable to find their voice in these triangles and being caught between the loved ones in their life.
Children are smart and persistent. Their begging or nagging can drive us crazy. It just takes a weak moment when we are tired to get worn down and give in. How can we stop this habit of nagging quickly and efficiently while staying loving and calm?
What is going on when our children seem judgmental of some of the things we do? As parents, we act as mirrors to them, just as they are reflections for us. It is uncomfortable to be at the receiving end of their projections but we need to keep in mind that this is not about us, as much as it feels that way, but it is about what our children have learned to disown; and we may even have taught them to disown that particular trait or energy.
Why do we interact in an addictive way with certain substances or activities? What is going on with these behaviours? Addictive behaviour is often established in early childhood. As parents, grand-parents and educators we can make a huge difference for the next generation if we understand how addictions begin.
I am sorry are the three most powerful words in the English language if delivered with an open heart and sincerity. A meaningful apology can transform a relationship in a positive way, but an apology can also fall short and have the opposite effect. What constitutes an effective apology?
We probably all hold the archetype of the “picture book perfect family,” like the Waltons, in our mind. But it is 2017, not the 1930’s, and the reality is that we are faced with more complicated family dynamics, other challenges, and different conflicts than the Waltons would have ever dreamed of.
Do you have a family member or co-worker who is not responding to what you are saying? Does it feel like they don’t hear you? We can feel so alone and get frustrated when that occurs. The solution is easier than you might think.
Anger is a strong protective emotion, but it is only like the tip of an iceberg. If we want to shift anger, we need to ask what more vulnerable emotions and unmet needs are hiding under the surface.
Life changing events put a strain on our love relationships. 83% of couples go through a moderate to severe crisis when they become parents for the first time. What distinguishes couples who navigate this time successfully from those who are greatly challenged?
It’s that time of the year again: back to school and back to homework. How do we as parents best support our children? I am sharing the blog space for today’s post with my fabulous colleague and fellow mother Mary Strachan who is the founder of Fresh Perspectives, a Parenting Coaching Service.