New year’s resolutions alone simply don’t work very well. They only work if we get our powerful subconscious mind on board with our conscious goals.
Category: Coaching
Fertility Issues and Your Partnership
Trying and having difficulties conceiving takes a toll on a marriage or partnership.The challenges around conceiving create different stresses for a couple. More than ever, what the couple needs most during this stressful period is time to connect with each other, beyond fertility. How can you still enjoy life and each other totally unrelated to trying to conceive?
What Does a Relationship or Marriage Coach do?
What does a marriage or relationship coach do and how can this help you? Are you struggling with jealousy, anger or an affair? Or do you feel emotionally triggered and unable to communicate successfully? Read more about how coaching could help you individually or with your partner.
Why Are You Getting So Upset? – Passive Aggressive Behaviour PART 2
You met Lisa and Yohan in part 1 of my article “Why Are You Getting So Upset?” They decided to face the challenge of shifting out of a problematic pattern She was being placed in the role of a controlling mother and he was responding passive-aggressively to the control he experienced. They had no productive…
Why Are You Getting So Upset? – Passive Aggressive Behaviour PART 1
Passive-aggressiveness is a strategy developed in childhood out of a feeling of powerlessness, and carried into adulthood and into our relationships as the automatic response when there is a conflict. How does it look and why is it so infuriating?
5 Winning Strategies in Relationships
If you dare to be happier than your parents, more vulnerable and more intimate with your spouse than they were able to be, you are forging into new territory for your whole ancestral line. You are changing the future for your children and grandchildren, who will have you as new role models. Here are five relationship strategies that help you create a more harmonic intimate partnership or marriage.
How To Do the Time Out Right
When one or both people in an interaction are emotionally triggered, perhaps even feeling extreme anger or rage, absolutely nothing good can come out of continuing the fight or emotionally charged conversation. While we are in fight, flight or freeze mode, we simply cannot problem solve. The time out is like a circuit breaker helping us to get back into a calm, clear, collected, creative and even compassionate state. How do we use the time out most effectively?
5 Losing Strategies in Relationships
We all have protective strategies which keep us from feeling vulnerable. Unfortunately, these dynamics cause damage to a relationship. Terry Real names five losing strategies in relationships. The first step of changing destructive interactions is to understand your partner’s protective mechanisms but more importantly what your own defaults are.
Conflicts in Relationships
Do you find yourself in conflicts with somebody close to you, responding from fight or flight? What is happening in those interactions and how do we get out of them?
The Six Second Kiss And Other Rituals of Connection
The six second kiss is a beautiful way of connecting. Kissing releases oxytocin and dopamine. These hormones help us to bond and feel safe. Tender kisses also reduce cortisol and are therefore very beneficial for our health. What other rituals can you establish and why are rituals so important for our relationships?
A.R.E. you there for me?
As humans we crave nothing more than a deep intimate connection with another person, yet, we are at the same time often deeply afraid of reaching out and entrusting others with our fears and needs. We receive our wounding in relationships and our deepest healing also happens within the boundaries of a safe, exclusive, committed and intimate relationship. How can we help our partner to reach out, and how can we find the courage to be vulnerable ourselves?
How Do I Accurately Assess a Potential Relationship Partner?
Are you dating and wondering if the other person is the right long-term partner for you? What is required to assess another person realistically and minimize repeating heartbreak and disappointment?