Recovering From Our Losses

Meet Tracy. She is an attractive woman with a warm smile. Her life is busy; she works; she has two children and an elderly father. She has learned to be strong for others, to keep busy and that time will heal all wounds. At night when the kids are in bed, she has a glass of wine or two and a bag of chips while watching Netflix. The alcohol, food and TV help her to relax and to not have to feel. Lately, she finds it harder and harder to get up in the morning and to keep going. Whenever she is not busy, a deep sadness is taking hold of her. This sadness is quite familiar.

She doesn’t know when she first started to have the lack of energy and these depressive thoughts and feelings. Perhaps, it was fourteen months ago, when her mother passed after a long fight with cancer. Or perhaps when she had two miscarriages and life just went on as if nothing happened. Or perhaps it was when her first marriage ended due to her husband’s infidelity. Or perhaps it was when her own parents divorced when she was fifteen. Or perhaps it all began when her beloved dog died when she was eight. Or perhaps this grief is as old as when she moved to Canada at the age of five not speaking a word of English, and having to leave her grandparents behind.

Grief is accumulative and it is accumulative negative. Our bodies become the storage tanks for all our losses and painful emotions because we were never given the tools to appropriately process our loss experiences. Our body speaks our mind through pains or other physical issues to let us know that the storage tank is over-flowing.

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Instead of listening to those physical symptoms, we have all learned to use some Short-Term Energy Relieving Behaviours (STERBS) like drinking alcohol, smoking, eating, watching TV, playing computer games, sleeping, taking meds, shopping, cleaning, exercising, working and so on to distract ourselves from the painful feelings associated with our losses. It is time to become aware of our STERBS and to address our buried emotions to gain greater happiness and health.

The grief recovery work is for losses we have experienced through death, divorce and 40+ other life changing events. Some examples are the loss of a love relationship or friendship, infidelity and the loss of trust, the death of a pet, a job loss, a move, an accident or illness, resulting perhaps in the loss of health or mobility, a miscarriage, stillbirth or abortion, physical, emotional or sexual abuse, and other life altering occurrences. Even positive life changes like graduation, marriage, or the birth of a child can be an experience of loss.

We are all faced with incomplete relationships and situations. We are all grievers in some form or other at different points in our life. In fact, grief spares nobody. The training to become a grief specialist involved deep personal healing work. After all, we can only take our clients to where we ourselves have been willing to go. As my workshop partner and I were sharing our loss history graphs, we were amazed how many similar patterns we found, despite the fact that he was 12 years younger, at a different stage in his life, of a somewhat different cultural background and of a different gender. The conclusion can only be that as humans, we all experience the same patterns of grief due to death, divorce and other losses.

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Grief is our normal and natural reaction to such a life changing event or loss. Grief occurs due to the conflicting feelings caused by the end or change of something familiar. It can masquerade as a powerful emotional state like deep sadness, depression or anger. Unresolved grief is almost always about us wishing things had been different, better, or more. We might have undelivered emotional communications with others. We also carry unrealized hopes, dreams or expectations. In case of the end of a good relationship, we might have had plans that never happened. In negative relationships, the end of the relationship robs us of the possibility to repair and make amends.

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The grief recovery work helps to complete our relationship to the pain caused by a significant emotional loss. It helps us to take responsibility for our actions, forgive others for theirs, and to deliver significant emotional statements. It is the opportunity to say goodbye to any pain or unmet hopes and dreams. We can then feel complete, live fully in the present and focus on any existing fond memories. The grief recovery work gives us freedom and newfound joy. It opens the door to health and happiness.

Angelika

Certified Grief Specialist, Belief Change Coach and Workshop Facilitator

905-286-9466

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Tuning into Other People’s Energy

We often have a hard time accepting that which we do not understand. Any form of energy healing or healing over distance is not easy to comprehend intellectually. Yet, quantum science has given us the scientific background for those hard-to-explain phenomena which we cannot detect with our physical eyes.

In order to explain what energy is and how we can tune into other people’s energy to do healing work for them, I have to begin with the discoveries of quantum physics that energy and matter are really just two different forms of the same material. Given the correct conditions, matter can be converted to energy and energy can be converted to matter. That is, the energy can be experienced as a wave in an undefined, unbounded or non-localized form, extending to infinity. Or, it can be experienced as a particle, localized with a defined physical shape.

The double slit experiment revealed that the questions of what is matter and what is energy are not easy to answer. Matter creates a certain pattern. When you shoot matter through one slit, it creates one line, when you shoot it through two slits it creates two parallel lines. A wave sent through two slits, however, creates an interference pattern. When you take an electron, a tiny particle which is therefore—by definition—matter, and you shoot it through one slit, it behaves like matter and creates one line. When you shoot it through two slits, it surprisingly creates an interference pattern like a wave.

But it gets even stranger! When you add an observer into the equation, the electron behaves like matter, even when it goes through two slits! The act of observing the electron changes whether it shows up as localized matter or non-localized, as a wave or energy extending out to infinity. The electron seems to be aware that it is being watched. The observer collapses the wave function simply by observing.

Click on the link to watch a 6 minute clip from the movie “What the Bleep Do We Know?” about the double slit experiment.

Every day, we are creating our reality by localizing or non-localizing our energy. We do this through our observation or perspective. We localize our energy into a given physical experience through our focused attention. What you give energy to manifests. It does not matter whether we give it energy in a positive way, focusing on what we want, or in a negative way, worrying or complaining about what we do not want. The creative life force energy follows attention and localizes the experience we have been focusing on.

To understand how energy connections work, we also need to know that two electrons created together are entangled. If we take one of of those two electrons to the other end of the world and we manipulate one of them, the other one responds instantly. This either means that information would have to travel infinitely fast, faster than light, or that the they are still entangled. By extension, because every electron that exists in our world today was entangled at the moment of the big bang, everything and everybody is still connected!

Space gives the illusion that everything is separate. But this is just an illusion. In reality, the energy that makes up an object or a person is in multiple places at once. Objects can be in multiple locations simultaneously before detection. Once an object has been observed or has been detected, it shows up in one place only. By observing it, we are calling it into one location.

We are, of course, made up by our atoms, our individual cells and so on. However, the deepest and most fundamental truth is that at the sub-nuclear level, we are all one. This invisible connection between everything is called entanglement. Einstein called it “spukhafte Fernwirkung” or “spooky action at a distance”. The results of entanglement appear to be “spooky” because we can’t see with or eyes that two places in space are co-located or co-existing.

Dean Radin, who examined para-psychological phenomena, explains it like this: “You head is here but also spread out through space and time. My head and the other person’s head are co-located.” What gives us the ability to connect with the other person is our intention. According to Radin, our entanglement manifests through phenomena like telepathy, clairvoyance, precognition, psychokinesis and distance healing. These phenomena seem to either transcendent the illusion of separation, of time, or of space.

“We swim in a field of light” (Lynne Taggart) which connects us all. This field is also called the zero-point field. We are always connected and the illusion of separation creates many problems in today’s world. We all exist in that field. Our body is a localized energy that exists at a given location but at the same time it has a portion that permeates all of reality and is capable of sensing all of reality.

We are usually trained to primarily sense the physical reality. To recognize and utilize the wave nature of our body, we need to understand and accept that our body is just like the antenna of a radio or a TV, which senses the electromagnetic signals. From the electromagnetic energy, the sound we hear or the picture that we see is produced. Our body is similar to an antenna on a radio or TV; a piece of metal that is sensitive to energy waves in the air. If waves are present, the antenna vibrates, but only by tuning the receiver you can transform the vibration in the antenna to a sound that you can hear or a picture that you can see. The antenna continues to vibrate whether or not one turns the receiver on. However, without the receiver the antenna is useless.

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How we focus our awareness and attention is how we “tune in” and “change” channels from one frequency to another. I might for example usually be tuned into 96.7 Angelika FM and that is what I download daily. But by intention and permission, I can focus on downloading and bringing in 88.5 Ben FM or 69.3 Sparky the dog AM.

This process creates a link-up between a stand-in and the unified consciousness of an individual or a group. There is no way to abuse this process because the Higher Wisdom of both parties, of the stand-in and of the person being channeled, must agree to begin and continue this connection. Your intention needs to be pure as opposed to imposing your will on another person. If you have an agenda and the work is not in the highest degree of integrity and in line with the highest wisdom and benefit for the participants, the link-up will not work or it will de-link.

What we have learned and been taught, as well as the experiences we have had, determines how we have been trained or not trained to use this antenna. Our antenna is always sensing the energy of our environment and continually relays that information to the brain, but as physical beings, we filter most of it out so we can have the experience of being human. Our powerful subconscious mind picks up everything that is going on, but the conscious mind can only process a very small percentage of that input. If we were consciously aware of all that we can sense, we would not perceive the separation that is required to live as a human.

Our subconscious uses body feelings, images and thoughts that we can understand symbolically or literally. All of the signals the body senses are picked up by the subconscious mind and it can present to our conscious mind images, thoughts or a “knowing”, because something just “popped into our mind”. The origin of that information is the unified field of consciousness.

However, if we are too busy thinking of other things or if we have learned to ignore and judge these messages, then we will miss the information that is being communicated to us. We have to be listening and “tuning in” to receive the information from the unified field and the subconscious mind.

Angelika

Belief Change Coach and Workshop Facilitator

905-286-9466

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What happened? Collective Shadows

This morning, I woke up to a lot of grief and disbelief shared on my Facebook feed about the results of the election. The shock and sadness echoed my own feelings of grief. There were also the voices of my spiritual friends reminding us not to give the hatred more power by going into fear, but to remember the spiritual truth of who we are and to embody love and light.

One of the questions asked over and over again was “why?” and “how could this happen?” We mustn’t forget that what we manifest originates from our subconscious mind, from our beliefs, our suppressed fears and our disowned energies, also called our shadows. The collective unconscious of a whole nation, perhaps even of the whole world, has ultimately co-created the outcome of these elections.

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The collective unconscious in Jungian psychology is “the part of the unconscious mind that is derived from ancestral memory and experience and is common to all humankind.” So the question would have to be, what shadows have been pushed underground, what fears and impulses have been disowned for one politician to represent all those energies?

Quantum physics teaches us that electrons which are created together are entangled. They are always connected and influencing each other. Since the big bang, we have all been connected on the level of our smallest particles. Or, in other words, we are connected through the collective unconscious mind and as each part of this mind, we carry responsibility. If what has been created is not what we would like to see, let’s move forward to create something different.

We cannot fight hatred with hatred, the only thing which allows us to move out of the low vibrational energy of hate, anger and fear is Love. Love is a clear movement towards unity. Love and light illuminate the darkness. Love heals all chaos. Chaos is a normal part of every change. Before we can emerge to create something new, there naturally is a time of unsettlement and chaos. No matter whether we welcome the change or fear it, the only thing we can count on is change. With change often comes loss. Loss is inevitable just like change itself.

When we experience a loss, for example the loss of security, or when we anticipate a loss, like the loss of human rights, grief is a natural response. This grief needs to be acknowledged, felt and processed. Only when we have taken the time to do that can we truly remember that we have choices to create something better, something new.

It is up to each and every one of us, no matter whether we had a direct vote in this election or not, to create a world free of hatred, judgment and oppression. Together we can change the collective unconscious by starting to love ourselves with all our fears and impulses and to begin to make conscious choices for freedom and equal rights for everybody, for unity and for love.

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