Empowering stories versus disempowering ones

Everything has a vibration, every thought, feeling, word, and action. In each moment in life, we choose which vibration we want to be in. Do we want to have an experience of doom and gloom, feeling like we are a victim, or do we choose to vibrate at a higher level of trust, peace and love? Fear is our enemy and influences what stories our left brain is able to create.

I have written before about our left brain being a “story teller” (Jill Bolte Taylor). We are faced with facts A, B and C and the left brain gives those facts a meaning based on our beliefs and past experiences. It literally fills in the gaps between the neutral facts with an interpretation which either makes them “good” or “bad”. The bare facts I was confronted with over the last ten days are “I fell” (fact A), “I broke both my ankles” (fact B), and “I am not able to walk for a while” (fact C).

There are countless ways I can tell the story around those facts. A victim story would sound: “Poor me, I fell and I broke both my feet. How terrible is that. I did not deserve such a tough experience and all this pain. Now I am completely helpless and need to be looked after. I can’t do anything anymore. I can’t take care of myself or work. And I bet this will take a looong time to heal. Meanwhile I am missing out on summer and on all the fun events going on which I was planning to attend. Poor poor me!”

A self-blame story would go like this, “How stupid was that of me to fall! If I had just not gone back down the stairs in the dark I wouldn’t be in this terrible situation. Now I have to pay for this stupidity for weeks and weeks. I deserve to suffer for being so careless…”

Or sometimes we choose to tell a story which blames others for our perceived misfortune. “If I hadn’t been alone, if so and so hadn’t turned off the lights, if I hadn’t been so tired because I had to do this or that for so and so… bla bla bla…” Or we might tell a combination of the victim and the (self-)blame story.

Empowering stories - bookshelf

I choose to tell neither of these dis-empowering stories. I choose to trust in the Universe and everything happening in Divine order, bringing us beautiful gifts and amazing lessons. God or the Source is loving and benevolent, not punishing, revengeful or chaotic. We are being “hit over the head” with the proverbial “baseball bat” when we don’t listen to a message, when there is no other way for us to learn our lessons. We can refuse to learn the lessons and tell victim or blame stories, or we can grudgingly learn them or we can even joyously learn what there is to learn and find the beauty in every experience in life.

This experience for me is an experience of how creative, adaptable and resourceful I am. Through different mobility devices, I have become as independent as possible and I have shifted my work to skype for the time being. It also is an experience of how blessed I am to have so many loving and giving people in my life who support me in so many ways.

I am amazed that 99% of our family and friends either consciously or intuitively understood the importance of not letting fear write our life stories for us. I overall encountered true empathy instead of pity, amazing practical help instead of meddling, and most of all trust instead of fear.

Sometimes we come across people who are not really able to be empathetic or supportive but plain nosey. Their prodding and digging for something negative might come from a place of fear. They might be thinking, “If I know how this happened, I can prevent this terrible disaster for myself”. Or perhaps it is our media which conditions us to sensationalism instead of looking for the bright side and the beauty in life. Just as we have the choice to watch the news, or not to watch it, we also have the choice to allow somebody to pull us into a low vibration, or not.

Empowering stories - baseball

When life throws us a curve ball, we have the choice to whine about how unfair that is or we can adapt and make the best of it and gracefully win the game. My family and I choose to fully focus on the light and the gifts in this situation. We opt to address this situation with laughter and strength instead of focusing on suffering and fear because we have a choice.

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Angelika, greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca, 905-286-9466

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