What message does my headache have for me?

Headaches or even migraines seem to be a common complaint from many people. We can just take a pill and suppress the symptoms or we can listen to the mind-body dialogue that is going on with each physical issue that occurs.

If you suffer from headaches that regularly occur or are particularly severe, have them checked out. You can also help yourself. Keep a food diary to find out if there is a connection between the headache and what you put into your body. Also monitor your thoughts and feelings. A journal helps to find out what particular thoughts, stories and emotions are going on prior to the headaches.

A good question to ask for headaches is, “Am I spending too much time in my head instead of in my heart?” and “Am I trying too hard to be perfect?”

Deb Shapiro outlines 7 different causes for headaches in her book “Your Body Speaks Your Mind”:

1.    Too Much Time Spent in Your Head

2.    Pushing Yourself to Achieve

3.    Repressed Feelings

Emotions—especially feelings of anger, resentment, frustration or anxiety—rise up from the subconscious into the head: they are a built up energy.

4.    Rigid Personality

Do you tend to be stubborn, intolerant or controlling?

5.    Avoidance Behaviour

The headache is “a way out.”

6.    Lack of Exercise (lack of oxygen in the blood)

7.    Food or Chemical Allergy

Like with any illness or physical issue that shows up, we have to keep in mind that our body is our friend trying to help us. Contemplate what this illness or pain is preventing you from doing and/or having? Also be honest with yourself about how this issue is serving you. Are you for example getting rest or attention that you feel you would under other circumstances not get?



What message does my pain have for me?

Pain is a friend—an ally—who has come to give us a message

Pain in any area of your body is a signal that something is out of balance. You need to pay attention and listen to what the pain has to say.

– Are you doing too much and stretching yourself too thin?

– Are you forcing something instead of allowing things to just be?

– Are you going in the wrong direction in one or more areas in your life?

– Are you repressing strong emotions, like resentment or anger?

– Are you feeling overwhelmed or without support?

– Are you longing to rest and be taken care off?

The pain is not an enemy! Your body is trying to communicate with you. The pain is a friend who has come for a visit to alert you of something. It wants to show you what needs changing.

You need to stop and listen! One way to do that is to surrender to the pain and to enter into its core. Sit or lie with the pain and breathe deeply into it. If we hold our breath, or if we go into a fear mode about the pain, we add tension and the pain gets worse. Emotional and mental tension causes more nerve and muscle tension.

Make yourself comfortable and begin to breathe all the way into your belly. Let you breaths be slow, deep and complete. Breathe out any tension, let all parts of your body drop and relax, especially the area in which you are experiencing the message. On each inhale, breathe in relaxation, ease and acceptance of what is. On each exhale, let go of tensions. Silently in your mind welcome the pain as a friend and ally. Then begin asking questions and let the painful area talk to you.


Deb Shapiro in her book “Your Body Speaks Your Mind” gives us different questions to ask ourselves when we are in pain:

  1. Are you unable to ask for help?
  2. Are you feeling trapped by negative feelings, such as revenge, resentment, guilt, or shame?
  3. Is there someone or something you are holding on to?
  4. What part of your inner being is hurting so badly?


Louise Bourbeau’s key questions from her book “Your Body’s Telling You: Love Yourself!” are:

  1. What is this illness/pain preventing me from doing and/or having?
  2. If I allowed myself to achieve these desires, what would I be?
  3. If I allowed myself to be _______ (fill in answer from previous question) what unpleasant situation could happen to me AND what would people think of me?


In my next blog I will elaborate more on headaches and communicating with the pain in our head.

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Pain is Not an Enemy

“Pain is not a mistake. It doesn’t mean that something has ‘gone wrong’ in the universe, that the body-mind is ‘broken’ in any way. It is only a signal, an expression of deep intelligence, a loud and clear call for kind, non-judgemental, present-moment attention. It is an invitation to break from your usual routine and plans and patterns, and meet a sacred moment with fresh and unassuming eyes.  Pain is not an enemy of awakening, but a misunderstood friend.” (Jeff Foster)

Not too long ago, by body shut me down. At the time, I was taking the first steps of getting into a situation that my higher self knew was not good for me. It was one of those situations that feel like our vision is finally manifesting. Logically, the situation seemed to have everything I desired, everything I had ever dreamed of. Yet, there was a part in me that knew that this situation wasn’t what it appeared to be. Consciously, I tried very hard to ignore all those signs that pointed to this being an unhealthy situation but my subconscious, that deeper mind which always protects us, did not let me do that.

Within a few hours I went from being able to move freely to a completely frozen shoulder. I could not move my arm at all; I could not lift it, could not reach up or forward, could not embrace anybody without screaming in pain. Several muscles in my body locked down completely. It took me ten days and all sorts of treatments which did not make a big difference in the levels of pain to finally admit to myself what this pain was all about. The moment I made the clear decision not to get into the situation, the pain subsided immediately.

Each time something like this happens to me or one of my clients or friends, I marvel at the wisdom of our body. My body was being very clear. It literally would not let me embrace the situation that had presented itself to me.

To shift out of your pain, listen attentively and with compassion for yourself to the message. What is the physical or emotional pain telling you? What needs to be changed in your life? Then DO IT. Make the changes necessary, no matter how much you are afraid of them! You will not heal unless you listen to your innate wisdom, to your higher mind that is speaking to you through your body!

After you have made the changes or decisions you need to make, use gentle and alternative methods that will help your body heal itself. During that period of healing, affirm to yourself “I am healed!” See and feel yourself restored to your healthy, essential self. Being sick or in pain was just a moment in time, a snapshot, and it served its purpose. Your true self is healthy and whole.


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