A Cold – Your Body Speaks Your Mind

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We are taught that colds are caused by viruses and that you will catch a cold when your immune system is not strong. The classic recommendation to boost your immune system is vitamin C. Yet, why is our immune system sometimes strong enough, other times not, despite following all the rules of getting enough sleep and maintaining healthy nutrition to keep up our immune system? Every physical issue has an emotional and mental component which has been left out of the equation in the explanation above.

It is not a coincidence when you get sick with a cold. The common cold is linked to a conflict in our life, a situation of overwhelm or stress. Your mind might literally be speaking through your body by saying “This situation stinks! I’ve had enough!” A cold can tell us that we are stressed out and need time off, or it can be connected to emotional issues.

Louise Hay points out that upper respiratory illnesses are related to “too much going on at once, mental confusion, disorder, small hurts” (L. Hay, Heal Your Body, 25). Sinus problems are an “irritation to one person, someone close” (L. Hay, Heal Your Body, 63). When I have a sinus problem I am usually annoyed with or angry at somebody else – or at myself. I need to acknowledge my anger and release it. A sore throat can be connected to “Holding in angry words, feeling unable to express the self” (L. Hay, Heal Your Body, 64).

Deb Shapiro explains that “colds, runny nose, and tears are all related—mucus and tears are both ways of releasing repressed or pent-up emotions. You may feel the same helplessness and despair, the same need for comfort. So, if you have a bad cold, you may want to see if there is some crying or grieving you are repressing, some deep feeling that has been pushed aside.” (Shapiro, Your Body Speaks Your Mind, 184) Some questions she suggests to ask yourself are: Do you need some time to yourself to adjust to something? Is this a cry for attention because everyone seems to be taking you for granted? Do you need to get ill in order to be taken care of?

Louise Bourbeau clarifies that “a cold will often manifest as a result of congestion on a mental level, especially when there’s so much going on in your head that you don’t know which way to turn.” (Bourbeau, Your Body’s Telling You: Love Yourself, 149) Our body can be quite literal. When we are “stuffed up” our emotional “stuff” is coming up. Key questions to explore the situation further are: What is this cold preventing me from doing or having? What is it allowing me to do or have? What am I experiencing and how do I feel about it?

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The phase of the cold when we have the symptoms is already the healing phase. Preceding that phase in which we are sneezing and coughing is the conflict phase. This conflict can be an event in our life. Sometimes it is a major event like losing our job, the break-up of a relationship or our pet dying, sometimes an event like a fight with our partner or being stressed about a situation at work. During this conflict we are in fight or flight mode.

After the conflict is resolved, our body goes into recovery mode. The body needs to heal and the symptoms of the healing are a runny nose, a headache, a sore throat, a cough etc. If the conflict does not get resolved, we might find ourselves in phase two having the cold symptoms as well because we get so exhausted from the conflict that our body is forcing us to rest. However, if the original conflict is not resolved, the cycle repeats and we will get sick again soon. Repeating cycles of this kind can manifest in serious illnesses.

Another mental factor of getting a cold is our belief system regarding illnesses. Beliefs like “I always get a cold in February” or “I get three colds every winter” affect us as much as a positive belief like “My immune system is strong. I hardly ever get sick”.

Illnesses will never be completely extinguished, no matter how much scientific research we invest into finding cures because it is the natural way of our body to communicate with us. To be healthier, we need to listen to our mind speak through our body and respond to the messages. There is an amazing intelligence in this mind-body-system which has the purpose to keep us emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually well.

 

Are you curious to find out what your body is telling you through physical issues and how you can respond to those messages?

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What message does my headache have for me?

Headaches or even migraines seem to be a common complaint from many people. We can just take a pill and suppress the symptoms or we can listen to the mind-body dialogue that is going on with each physical issue that occurs.

If you suffer from headaches that regularly occur or are particularly severe, have them checked out. You can also help yourself. Keep a food diary to find out if there is a connection between the headache and what you put into your body. Also monitor your thoughts and feelings. A journal helps to find out what particular thoughts, stories and emotions are going on prior to the headaches.

A good question to ask for headaches is, “Am I spending too much time in my head instead of in my heart?” and “Am I trying too hard to be perfect?”

Deb Shapiro outlines 7 different causes for headaches in her book “Your Body Speaks Your Mind”:

1.    Too Much Time Spent in Your Head

2.    Pushing Yourself to Achieve

3.    Repressed Feelings

Emotions—especially feelings of anger, resentment, frustration or anxiety—rise up from the subconscious into the head: they are a built up energy.

4.    Rigid Personality

Do you tend to be stubborn, intolerant or controlling?

5.    Avoidance Behaviour

The headache is “a way out.”

6.    Lack of Exercise (lack of oxygen in the blood)

7.    Food or Chemical Allergy

Like with any illness or physical issue that shows up, we have to keep in mind that our body is our friend trying to help us. Contemplate what this illness or pain is preventing you from doing and/or having? Also be honest with yourself about how this issue is serving you. Are you for example getting rest or attention that you feel you would under other circumstances not get?

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What message does my pain have for me?

Pain is a friend—an ally—who has come to give us a message

Pain in any area of your body is a signal that something is out of balance. You need to pay attention and listen to what the pain has to say.

– Are you doing too much and stretching yourself too thin?

– Are you forcing something instead of allowing things to just be?

– Are you going in the wrong direction in one or more areas in your life?

– Are you repressing strong emotions, like resentment or anger?

– Are you feeling overwhelmed or without support?

– Are you longing to rest and be taken care off?

The pain is not an enemy! Your body is trying to communicate with you. The pain is a friend who has come for a visit to alert you of something. It wants to show you what needs changing.

You need to stop and listen! One way to do that is to surrender to the pain and to enter into its core. Sit or lie with the pain and breathe deeply into it. If we hold our breath, or if we go into a fear mode about the pain, we add tension and the pain gets worse. Emotional and mental tension causes more nerve and muscle tension.

Make yourself comfortable and begin to breathe all the way into your belly. Let you breaths be slow, deep and complete. Breathe out any tension, let all parts of your body drop and relax, especially the area in which you are experiencing the message. On each inhale, breathe in relaxation, ease and acceptance of what is. On each exhale, let go of tensions. Silently in your mind welcome the pain as a friend and ally. Then begin asking questions and let the painful area talk to you.

 

Deb Shapiro in her book “Your Body Speaks Your Mind” gives us different questions to ask ourselves when we are in pain:

  1. Are you unable to ask for help?
  2. Are you feeling trapped by negative feelings, such as revenge, resentment, guilt, or shame?
  3. Is there someone or something you are holding on to?
  4. What part of your inner being is hurting so badly?

 

Louise Bourbeau’s key questions from her book “Your Body’s Telling You: Love Yourself!” are:

  1. What is this illness/pain preventing me from doing and/or having?
  2. If I allowed myself to achieve these desires, what would I be?
  3. If I allowed myself to be _______ (fill in answer from previous question) what unpleasant situation could happen to me AND what would people think of me?

 

In my next blog I will elaborate more on headaches and communicating with the pain in our head.

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“Our Body Speaks Our Mind”

Deb Shapiro’s “Our Body Speaks Our Mind” is one of four books that I reference to get more clarity on the connection between physical issues and emotional, mental and spiritual challenges my clients face. Other authors who explain these connections include Louise Hay, Lise Bourbeau, and Narayan-Singh.

Another thing I reference when people come in with physical symptoms is my own intuition and a higher guidance. PSYCH-K® allows me to connect with the person’s energy and gain valuable insights into what is going on and what they need.

Sometimes people listen to their bodies early on. However, most people are so used to ignoring their physical signs and “fixing” them with medications that they don’t stop to ask what is going on until their symptoms are quite severe or chronic.

Here are some examples.

– One of my female clients had regular severe bladder infections. Her body was developing a resistance to the most common antibiotics. She realized that she would get a bladder infection each time she was “pissed at” her husband and instead of expressing her emotions appropriately was turning them inward. She learned to deal with her emotions differently and the bladder infections stopped completely.

– One of my male clients suffered from chronic rheumatoid arthritis. Once he realized that his attacks were connected to being extremely critical with not just all the people around him, but especially with himself, he was able to shift his issue. As he was learning to love and approve of himself and of his loved ones, his arthritis improved.

– When I do diabetes motivational coaching, one part of coming to terms with the diagnosis and the required life changes is to understand that diabetes is connected to the feeling that there is “no sweetness in life.” It is a call to change one’s experience to one of living in every moment and of experiencing life as sweet and joyful.

– A young client of mine gets regular sinus infections each time she is “fed up” and overwhelmed. She is literally stuffed up with her “stuff” and irritated with the situation she is in or with a person around her. Her body is telling her quite clearly, “You had enough!” The more she understands this connection the more she can learn to create more peaceful and harmonious experiences for herself and surround herself with less irritating people.