Have you ever found yourself feeling unappreciated? I have; quite recently, actually. For a couple of weeks, I found myself running programs about how much I do for some people and how little these things are acknowledged or appreciated. I sounded like one of our older female relatives who always complains about how much she does and how nobody ever thanks her. Yikes. That certainly was a rude awakening! I didn’t like that image in the mirror at all
On New Year’s Day, when I was talking to my best friend, who often seems to go through similar lessons as I am, I had an epiphany. The only one who is to blame here is myself. I made the choice to over-function because I perceived others as not functioning sufficiently. I made several things my responsibility that strictly speaking weren’t; and my friend had realized the same for herself. For the holidays, we had put self-care somewhere lower on the list of priorities and not at the top where it belonged.
What is the solution? It is very easy. Stop over-functioning! The house does not need to look like in an Ikea catalogue; making everybody feel happy and loved at Christmas is not your responsibility; and if other people miss their deadlines, remind yourself that they are their deadlines. If somebody takes you completely for granted, walk away.
Instead, make yourself first priority again. Don’t do anything unless you absolutely want to. Give only if you can give without expectations. Treat yourself to more “me time”, to all the things you like to do. Ask, “what makes me happy today?” and then do it.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
May 2017 be filled with healthy priorities
and lots of rejuvenating “you time”!
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