How Limiting Relationship Beliefs and Skills Affect Us

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Studies have shown that married couples, or at least married men, tend to live longer than their unmarried counterparts. However, that is only true if these couples experience their relationship as happy and feel safe with each other.

What determines whether we can create a safe and happy long-term relationship with our partner? We need to consider two main components: our subconscious beliefs and our learned skills.

The science of epigenetics has shown that our beliefs shape our reality. Supportive as well as limiting beliefs affect us in all areas of our life, including relationships. Our mind reads the environment and sends that information to our cells. Healthy cells allow us to live longer. However, the cells don’t get the information directly but via our nervous system, which responds to our perception of reality.

If our mind perceives another person as safe, we feel relaxed and our body is calm. Our cells get the message that we live in a safe environment. In that case, we tend to live long and happy lives because we are experiencing life as safe and pleasurable. If our mind misinterprets the environment, based on limiting beliefs about relationships, and perceives it as threatening, no matter whether it actually is or not, the cells in our body receive the message that we are in danger, which activates stress hormones, and our natural fight or flight response is activated.

If we look through a negative filter, based on our past experiences and learned beliefs, at our relationships, we can find different reasons not to trust and ultimately we are sabotaging every intimate relationship.

Some of those faulty conclusions about love and relationships we might have drawn as we were growing up are, “I will always be alone and no one will ever be there for me”, or “I will never be good enough”, or “I cannot have my needs met in any romantic partnership”, or “I cannot be honest and myself in relationships”, or “Once, there is a conflict, that’s the beginning of the end, and I had better withdraw already to protect myself”. The latter pattern of course is supposed to minimize the hurt if somebody rejects us. Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s research has shown that long-term partnerships are forged and stabilized through the reconciliation of conflicts and differences. So it is actually the limiting belief about conflicts which ultimately creates what the person fears: the loss of the relationship.

But it’s not just the negative filter of our limiting beliefs that affects us in relationships, but also our missing relationship skills. Imperative skills in every relationship are knowing how

  1. to get in touch with our needs and to express them successfully
  2. to take personal responsibility for our part in an interaction
  3. to make amends and repair break-downs or rifts
  4. to work through conflicts in a conscious way
  5. to self-soothe when you get emotionally activated or “triggered”
  6. to hold the space for each other and co-regulate each others emotions
  7. to be vulnerable and generate intimacy on a regular basis
  8. to keep your autonomy while connecting on a daily basis with our partner

When one or both partners are missing one or more of these skills, they can get into a lot of painful or toxic patterns. So we need to ask ourselves which of these abilities we did not develop when we were young. Perhaps conflict resolution or collaboration are missing skills? Perhaps being able to be with our unpleasant emotions and self-regulating these when required is what we need to learn? Perhaps we need to begin to take responsibility rather than choosing to believe that things are happening to us and we are without power and influence?

What beliefs do you need to change and what skills would you like to learn in order to create and continue to lead a healthy and happy long-term relationship?

 

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Angelika

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How About Love?

Five hundred twenty-five thousand

Six hundred minutes

How do you measure – measure a year?

In daylights – in sunsets

In midnights – in cups of coffee

In inches – in miles

In laughter – in strife

In – five hundred twenty-five thousand

Six hundred minutes

How do you measure

A year in the life

How about love?

(“Seasons Of Love” song from the musical “Rent”)

Love is a topic which occupies all of us. As a society, we are obsessed by it: books, movies, TV series, musicals, Valentine’s Day, talking with your girlfriend, seeing your therapist. Everything revolves around relationships and love. We long for it and we wonder how to “get love”. At the same time, there is hardly any other topic we have learned more myths about.

Science has revealed that love is vital to our existence. Love is a basic survival code for us as humans. Our brain is wired to read and respond to others. Feeling safe and loved by others makes us stronger. We all need the emotional and spiritual nourishment of human relationships. Human comfort is our natural remedy for fear, stress, and doubt. Rejection, abandonment and disconnection are cues for danger that plunge us into anxiety and cause us not just emotional but also physical pain.

“When your mind perceives the experience of love, it causes the brain to secrete neurochemicals, such as dopamine, oxytocin and growth hormone into the blood (…) you are generally healthier and more alive when you are in love (…) fear provokes the release of stress hormones and inflammatory agents such as cytokines into the blood (…)” (Bruce Lipton, The Honeymoon Effect)

Love is not something we “get” or “fall into” when we are lucky or happen to just be cute and lovable. Love is an energy to embrace; it is a consciousness. It doesn’t just happen to us. We are co-creating it based on our core beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we have learned that we are lovable and worthy of experiencing love and joy, it is easier to vibrate at the level of love. Love is an experience but it is an action first and foremost.

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Dhebi DeWitz

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Dhebi DeWitz

If you are going through life, waiting to feel love when you meet others, you have misunderstood the true essence of love. Love is a discipline; it requires us to personify love and to practice being loving with yourself and others.

In fact, an essential aspect is learning to unconditionally love ourselves. Many of us have been taught to give to others, to love others and to under no circumstances be so vain as to love ourselves. In Bruce Lipton’s workshops, 90% of people fail the muscle test “I love myself”. I can certainly confirm that from my own sessions. “I love and accept myself the way I am” is a belief most of us do not hold in our subconscious mind.

Instead, we hold back on truly loving ourselves until a certain condition is met. “I’ll love myself and my body when I have lost weight”, “I’ll love myself when I have reached my goals”, “I’ll love myself when somebody else truly loves me”. That conditioning completely misunderstands the true nature of love.

We exist as love. Children come into this world open, loving and unguarded, until they learn to protect themselves and guard their heart. Reconnecting with our true essence simply means reopening our heart to love. It means the end of loneliness and separation. Instead it fosters unity with others, with other people, with nature, with the source of life with all there is.

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Dhebi De Witz

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Dhebi De Witz

Self-Love is as misunderstood a term as love. Self-love isn’t just a verb. Self-Love is beyond taking care of yourself and doing things for yourself. Self-Love is knowing who you are and knowing you are made of love. Love is your original energy, your true essence.

How do you open your heart, you might wonder? How do you start loving yourself and others more? You create love by creating an atmosphere of love in your life. Seeing the beauty in yourself is as necessary as seeing the beauty in others. Your thoughts determine who and what you attract into your world. Allow yourself to see more of the joy and beauty of life that is surrounding you daily. Allow yourself to be at peace with what is, instead of criticizing and focusing on the lack in yourself and others.

You create this love by speaking kindly to the people you meet. You consciously look for the good and the positive in everyone. You tell people why you appreciate them. You listen from your heart to the words that others speak. You give yourself permission to be truly present with them. You build bridges to connect with others. By being loving—by being considerate in your thoughts, your words, and your actions—you are attracting more love into your life.

We are conditioned to believe that happiness and love comes only after we have found our ideal lover. This attitude limits our personal growth. Instead, decide to be truly happy right now, today. And because your sincere joy makes you more attractive, others find you lovable and want to be around you. Soon you begin to feel the joy, the lightness, and the laughter, that comes with love. You realize that love is more than a lover adoring us. Love is an open heart for everybody, including yourself. That kind of love is healing.

There are two basic human emotions. One is fear, the other is love. One cancels out the other. Fear impacts our ability to love. Love, on the other hand, heals all fear and chaos. Love is the solution to disease and pain, whether physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. Love is not just inside all of us. Love is the actual essence we fundamentally are. Therefore we are our own and other people’s healers. “Love is a healer because it undoes the basic problem of separation and also the basic fear of not being loveable. It restores our awareness of our Unconditional Self and our true nature. Love is, I believe, the solution to every problem.” (Robert Holden, Loveability)

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Believing Impossible Things

“Alice laughed: “There’s no use trying,” she said; “one can’t believe impossible things.”

“I daresay you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. “When I was younger, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”

– Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

 

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When we first entertain a new more supportive belief it often seems impossible and ludicrous. Our subconscious mind has, after all, been running on the exact opposite program for years.

“I have a strong immune system and stay healthy all year long.” How unbelievable is that if I have been expecting to get at least one cold every winter?

“I easily and effortlessly attract money doing what I love”. How ludicrous does that seem if the previous belief program is “It is hard for me to make and keep money”?

“I have all it takes to draw my perfect partner into my life.” How hard to grasp if old programs of unworthiness have been running the show!

“I deserve to relax and take time for myself.” How challenging is this when I have learned that I always have to achieve and produce and that resting means I am lazy?

“It is impossible for a human being to run a mile under four minutes.” So many believed that in the 1940ties until Roger Banister broke the world record and ran the mile in 3 minutes, 59 seconds. Shortly afterwards several other people broke that barrier of 4 minutes as it was now believable. Today the world record lies at 3 minutes 43 seconds.

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Have you ever tried to change your beliefs through affirmations alone? How long did that take and how effective was that? We usually need many repetitions to create lasting changes on a conscious level.

Our subconscious is like a sumo wrestler in a wrestling match with our conscious mind, which perhaps has the strength of a five year old child. Unless we get the sumo wrestler on our side, the match is pretty much lost.

Our conscious mind can process and manage an average of 40 nerve pulse per second, our subconscious mind manages approximately 40 million nerve pulses per second. In other words, while the conscious mind can process 40 bits of information, the subconscious can process 40 million bits. Our conscious mind only controls 5% of all our actions. 95% of our actions are due to our subconscious programs, our beliefs based on our past experiences, traumas, ideas and values.

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Bruce Lipton summarizes the four ways of rewriting subconscious programming:

  1. Shock

For example, a belief like “Life is safe for me” can suddenly change to the opposite when we experience a traumatic event like an accident or loss.

  1. Repetition

Affirmations are a way of repeating a new belief over and over again until the subconscious agrees.

  1. Hypnosis

In a normal waking state of consciousness, our brain wave activity is in the beta range. Through hypnosis, we can access alpha and theta brain waves and access the subconscious mind with beneficial suggestions.

  1. Energy Psychology / Belief Change Modalities

Belief Change modalities, like PSYCH-K® or the Shadow Energetics® Belief Change Process, are equivalent to super-learning and are undoubtedly the fastest way of changing a belief. You can rewrite a belief program in 5-10 minutes.

 

What do you believe to be impossible? Are you ready to question your beliefs and belief systems and create amazing changes in your life?

For individual Belief Change Sessions or if you want to learn Shadow Energetics® contact

Angelika Baum, Belief Change Coach and Workshop Facilitator,

905-286-9466, greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

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Leveraging the Placebo Effect

My friend’s husband has unknowingly been drinking caffeine-free coffee for the last three months. It worked just as well as regular coffee—until he found out that his wife and assistant had been conspiring for the sake of his health. The moment he found out it wasn’t “real” coffee and he shouldn’t be experiencing any stimulating effects, it stopped working.

Why did the caffeine-free substance work just as well for three whole months? That would be the placebo effect or the power of his mind. He expected it to work and hence experienced feeling more awake and less tired.

In the medical field, the placebo effect is defined as a measurable, observable, or felt improvement in health or behaviour that arises from the patient’s expectations concerning an inactive substance—like a sugar pill, distilled water, or saline solution—or a “fake” treatment rather than from the substance or treatment itself.

Different definitions speak about the expectation, or faith, or belief of the person as the defining factor for the placebo to work. Rob Williams, the founder of PSYCH-K®, a highly effective belief change system, suggests that it would be more fitting to refer to the placebo effect as the “perception effect”.

The western medical community has officially known about this phenomenon for 80 years. The American anaesthesiologist Henry Knowles Beecher discovered the placebo effect as a medic in World War II. After running out of pain-killing morphine, he replaced it with a simple saline solution but continued telling the wounded soldiers it was morphine to calm them.

If we have known about this for 80 years, why aren’t we leveraging the power of our mind more? The placebo effect should be a major topic of study in medical school. It gives doctors an efficient, side effect-free tool to treat disease. Instead it is often still regarded as something that is “all just in the person’s mind” and is linked to weak or suggestible patients.

We are all suggestible! Our world is full of suggestions, from the moment we wake up in the morning right up until we go to bed at night. The suggestions are on the radio, in the paper, on TV, and on the Internet. In fact, there are suggestions in this article that you are reading right now. Suggestions are littered throughout the media, whether they show up as supposedly objective news stories or commercials. They are on the bus and at work as we listen to other people sharing their beliefs. Beliefs are contagious. Suggestions are especially powerful when we enter the office of an authority like a doctor, a teacher or another person we admire and trust, like a Psychic we seek out for advice. And even when we are not listening to somebody outside ourselves, the suggestions are running in our own heads. We are constantly hypnotizing ourselves by repeating our current beliefs and stories.

Now, is that a problem? Not at all. We just need to harness the power of our subconscious mind and our beliefs and use them to our advantage. We need to be very aware of negative suggestions and we need to choose more supportive ones. We can literally change our biology and our health by what we believe to be true.

Bruce Lipton quote AUnfortunately, drug companies study patients who respond to the placebo effect with the goal of eliminating them from early clinical trials. (Greenberg, “Is it Prozac? Or Placebo?” 2003) An estimated one third of the population responds especially well to placebos. Those highly responsive people are eliminated before the drug is even tested. Drug companies obviously have no interest in researching the healing power we all have inside because we won’t need to buy drugs if we can actually heal from within. Knowing about the power of our beliefs and our ability to create our reality from those beliefs and perceptions, and to even change our biology, would open the door to a multitude of other possibilities for the human race. These potentialities would dramatically and completely change our consciousness level and affect the way we live. It would most likely be the end to many industries on the planet, the health industry being one of the foremost ones.

The Basic PSYCH-K® Training includes a documentary about different studies which illustrate that conventional medicine is often as effective as a placebo treatment. A Baylor School of Medicine study, published in 2002 in the New England Journal of Medicine, examined surgery for patients with severe and debilitating knee pain. The patients were divided into three groups. The surgeon, Dr. Bruce Moseley, shaved the damaged cartilage in the knee of one group. For the second group he flushed out the knee joint, removing all of the material believed to be causing inflammation. Both of these processes are the standard surgeries for severe arthritic knees. The third group only received a pretend surgery: the patients were sedated, the three standard incisions were made and then the surgeon talked and acted just as he would during surgery. All three groups were prescribed the same postoperative care which included an exercise program. The results were astonishing! The placebo group improved just as much as the other two groups who had surgery. The footage shows members of the placebo group walking and playing basketball.

Bruce Moseley quoteAnother area in which placebos have been proven to be highly affective is the antidepressant industry. A 2002 article published in the American Psychological Association’s prevention & treatment, by University of Connecticut psychology professor Irving Kirsch titled, “The Emperor’s New Drugs,” found that 80% of the effect of antidepressants, as measured in clinical trials, could be attributed to the placebo effect. Kirsch had to file a Freedom of Information Act request to even get his hands on the information on the clinical trials of the top six antidepressants on the market. In more than half of the clinical trials, the placebo worked as well as the drug. “The difference between the response of the drugs and the response of the placebo was less than two points on average on this clinical scale that goes from fifty to sixty points. That’s a very small difference, that difference is clinically meaningless.” (Kirsch)

Cell biologist Bruce Lipton also notes that the more antidepressants were talked about in the media and advertised for, the more effective they became. We are, as I mentioned earlier, all suggestible. We live in a culture where most people believe that anti-depressants work, and therefore they do.

A young man I know has recently been told that after taking a particular anti-depressant for six years his body had become accustomed to it and it would not work anymore. Guess what happened instantly after his doctor had given him this suggestion? Exactly! It stopped working for him. The one thing this young man can count on is that the doctor will next suggest this amazing new anti-depressant which will be all hyped up as working so much better. And it will indeed work. But not necessarily because the drug is all that it is made out to be, but rather because we believe it is. After all, anti-depressants are an $8.2 billion industry.

If we can heal by believing that a particular drug or treatment will cure us, what does this mean? It means that it is really our beliefs, thoughts, and feelings which are responsible for a change. We believe that the coffee will wake us up, or that the pain medication with a known brand name will reduce the discomfort, or that the anti-depressant will make us feel better. When it comes to depression, the general belief is that a chemical deficit in the brain is responsible. If our thoughts and emotions release different chemicals in the brain, wouldn’t it make more sense to work on a person’s thoughts and feelings to induce a different chemical state? Relaxation, meditation and belief change work are all a gift to claim our power to heal ourselves and to make any changes to our thoughts and experiences.

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The first thing which needs to change is for everybody to realize that we are constantly influenced and hypnotized to believe what the people around us believe. We have been brainwashed and programmed to believe that we need something outside ourselves to make changes to what we believe to be real, like our physical health. One of the hardest things to do is probably to go against our collective beliefs.

Somebody who has been diagnosed with a particular illness, whether that is cancer, MS, lupus, fibromyalgia, to just name a few of those big ones, has to not only defy any personal limiting beliefs but also the collective beliefs about what it means to have one of these diseases. Connie Kowalski, an amazing colleague of mine, has refused to play within the field of Lupus and has come back to perfect health after needing a wheelchair and everybody fearing she wouldn’t have long to live. She did deep healing work at a subconscious level. Another friend and colleague of mine, Allison Bastarache, has done the same for MS. She healed herself completely and has now stepped into her calling of being an energy worker and spiritual healer. As these two amazing women and their beautiful healing stories show, our potential healing power is truly limitless!

Are you ready to embrace your own power to change your reality?

PSYCH-K®, Hypnosis and NLP all give us tools to make changes.

Contact Angelika

905-286-9466

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

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Integrity, Cooperation and Heart-Centredness

An interesting phenomenon came my way over the weekend, a concept I had almost forgotten about: competition versus co-operation. The idea of competition comes from us being in a place of fear, from feeling separate and alone. Cooperation, on the other hand, is knowing that we are all connected and can help each other because there is no need to fear a lack.

I am very blessed to be in a field in which most people understand that there is enough abundance for all. When somebody approaches us because they want to learn or do what we do, we openly share. Ultimately, somebody has helped us along the way. We are what we are due to the support we have received. When we network and we have overlapping skills or talents, we trust that we can work together for the highest benefit of everybody. Beautiful collaborations have come out of that philosophy.

There is no need to fearfully hang onto what it yours, to be sneaky and hurt somebody else to have an advantage over them. Everything is energy. Dishonesty and a lack of integrity are in the long run going to come back to the person who has chosen it.

Experiencing that somebody in our field chooses unnecessary and aggressive competition and dishonesty over cooperation and fairness surprised me immensely. The woman who made this unfortunate choice is relatively new to the field of healing and spirituality and perhaps she has not understood, yet, that the Universe does not reward a lack of integrity.

Coming back from a beautiful networking meeting yesterday morning with a room full of heart-centred people who are all committed to raising the vibration in this area of the world has restored my faith in my fellow humans again and has filled my heart with peace.

As my friend, Matt Scherb, reminded us at that meeting, we only need 1 square root of 1% of the population to change the consciousness on this planet and the life quality for everybody. This is called the Maharishi effect, named after Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, who proved that one square root of 1% of a population practicing the Transcendental Meditation® technique produces measurable improvements in the vibration away from fear, crime, violence, competition and egocentric thinking to love, lower crime rates and less violence, cooperation and group thinking.

Another way of changing that vibration are the heart-centred workshops which my friend Darryl Gurney teaches. He used to be my mentor and is still a man I greatly admire, as he really personifies Love. Whether he teaches the participants PSYCH-K® (Belief Changes), or Holoenergetics (Healing with Love), or Shadow Energetics (Shadow work) he always raises the energy of the entire group through his role modelling and beautiful presence. Becoming a part of the PSYCH-K® family is an experience full of laughter, personal healing and insights, all while learning techniques to help others.

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UPCOMING WORKSHOPS:

Basic PSYCH-K® Training in Milton,

February 28 / March 1, 2015

Saturday, Feb. 28, 2015 from 8:30 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

Sunday, March 1, 2015 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

Monday, March 2, 2015 Optional Practice Day from 10:00-1:00, $50.00

LOCATION:

St. Paul’s United Church, 123 Main Street, Milton, ON

Saturday and Sunday $425.00 Early Bird, if deposit of $100 received by Feb. 6, $475.00 after Feb. 6

Bring a friend early registration is $375.00 each

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“The secret of life is BELIEF. Rather than genes, it is our beliefs that control our lives. PSYCH-K® is a set of simple, self-empowering processes to change your beliefs and perceptions that impact your life at a cellular level.”

– Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., author of The Biology of Belief, Spontaneous Evolution, and The Honeymoon Effect

 

 

Holoenergetics Workshop

Friday, March 6 – Sunday, March 8, 2015

HOURS:

Friday, March 6 from 8:30 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

Saturday, March 7 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

Sunday, March 8 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

LOCATION:

Milton or Mississauga

EARLY BIRD: $575 – if $150 deposit received before February 12, $650 thereafter (Prices include tax)

Three Buckets of Water

Imagine you have three buckets of water in front of you. The bucket on the left contains hot water, the bucket on the right cold water, and the bucket in the middle tepid water. You plunge your left hand into the bucket with hot water, and at the same time your right hand into the bucket with cold water. You leave your hands in the buckets for a couple of minutes. Then you simultaneously pull them out and put them both in the middle bucket.

What does your left hand tell you about the temperature in the middle bucket? What feedback does your right hand give you about the water in the same bucket?

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To your left hand, the water in the middle feels cold. However, for your right hand, the water appears to be hot. You could say that at the level of the buckets the hands are having an argument: “This water is cold!” “No, how can you not feel this! This water is hot!”

The buckets represent our conditioning, the experiences we have had and the beliefs we have learned. We all come from a specific bucket and have a different perception of the same reality.

When we remember that everybody comes from their own bucket, we can have true compassion for how others experience life and respond to it. Instead of insisting to be right, we can see things as relative to our “buckets”. If we want to experience the “water” rather as “hot” as opposed to “cold”, or vice versa, we need to change our own perception, which we have due to our individual conditioning. We need to examine our beliefs and change them at a subconscious level.

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We are running the next Basic PSYCH-K class on October 4 & 5, 2014 in Milton, Ontario. In this introductory class with Darryl Gurney, you will learn muscle testing and three different ways of changing a subconscious belief.

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At the end of the weekend, you will go home with a set of tools to quickly and efficiently change your beliefs. You will have given yourself the gift of choice what to belief and what to feel. You will be able to rise above your bucket and see things from a wider perspective.

PSYCH-K® – the Missing Piece

Usually, new clients find me after reading Bruce Lipton’s “Biology of Belief”. Lipton provides the scientific background for the fact that all the cells in our body are biochemically affected by our thoughts. He shows that genes and DNA do not control our biology. Instead, our DNA is controlled by signals from outside our cells, including the positive and negative thoughts we have and—on a deeper level—the supportive or limiting beliefs that we have been raised with.

From Bruce Lipton’s scientific foundation, new clients have usually been lead to Rob Williams, the founder of PSYCH-K®. While the biologist Lipton explains to us how our brain functions, Rob Williams holds the missing piece that tells us how to change limiting beliefs at the subconscious level.

What is PSYCH-K®?

PSYCH-K® uses Kinesiology to determine what our subconscious agrees with or doesn’t agree with. If it does not agree with a particular supportive belief, we have a permission protocol to follow to find out if it is in the highest wisdom and benefit to change a particular belief at a particular point in time and with which balance that can be done. The belief is then quickly and efficiently changed in a whole brain state. Afterwards, muscle testing confirms that a shift has been made. The client’s subconscious now agrees with that particular supportive belief. He or she is one step closer to easily and effortlessly reaching a particular goal.

I have been a full time PSYCH-K® practitioner for eight years. Over the years I have learned many techniques to assist my clients in making changes. Nothing has been as effective, efficient and life-changing as PSYCH-K®. I use PSYCH-K® with almost every client at least at some point during a session, if they have not booked an entire PSYCH-K® session to begin with.

Contact me for individual PSYCH-K® sessions or to take the PSYCH-K® training in the fall.

905-286-9466

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

 

The next Basic PSYCH-K® Training in the GTA (either Mississauga or Milton) is coming up October 4 & 5, 2014.

Darryl Gurney is also offering a Basic PSYCH-K® Training on July 26 & 27, 2014 in Vancouver.

Does Stress Really Cause Illness and Shorten Our Life?

We have all been warned many times that stress can make us sick, cause heart attacks, and reduce our life expectancy. Is that really true?

First of all, we have to distinguish between different kinds of stress because stress hormones have multiple roles. According to Bruce Lipton, there are two types of stress: distress and eustress.

Distress occurs when we perceive that our survival is threatened. Cortisol and adrenaline cause us to shift into protection mode. That response would be very helpful if we were being attacked by a mountain lion. However, everyday traffic or a job we hate can have the same effect. We experience chronic stress that can cause illness. Important to note though is that the chronic stress is based on our perception!

Eustress literally means “good stress”. It occurs when we engage in physical activities, like exercising, or mental activities, like writing a book. Falling passionately in love has the same hormonal effect. Cortisol is released in all of those situations.

 

Newer stress research even suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. As a belief change coach, it does not really surprise me that our physical responses depend on our beliefs. When we believe stress causes us physical damage, it does. When we don’t view stress as dangerous, it does not have the same negative effect.

“When you change your mind about stress, you can change your body’s response to stress,” says health psychologist Kelly McGonigal in her Ted Talk, “How to Make Stress Your Friend”.

In a study in which participants were trained to view their stress responses as helpful rather than harmful, their physical responses were affected. Participants’ hearts still beat faster, but their blood vessels remained relaxed. They showed a much healthier cardiovascular profile, similar to the profile we see in moments of joy or courage.

McGonigal also points out that stress makes us social. The hormone Oxytocion is released. Oxytocin is a neurohormone that fine tunes our social instincts, makes us crave physical contact, enhances our empathy, and makes us more willing to help and support others. It is part of our stress response just like adrenaline. It motivates us to seek out others for emotional support. We want to be surrounded by people who care about us.

Oxytocin is also a natural anti-inflammatory. It helps our heart cells regenerate and heal from any stress-induced damage. We could say that our stress response has a built-in mechanism for stress resilience. That mechanism is the yearning for human connection caused through oxytocin.

McGonigal sites a third study in which people who spent time caring for others lived longer. Caring created resilience, despite stressful events in their lives.

Interesting for me as a hypnotist and belief change coach is that how you think about stress transforms your experience of stress and consequently your physical responses. When you choose to view your stress response as helpful and connect with others under stress, you increase your health and your life expectancy.

How you think about stress matters! It makes a big difference as to whether stress is actually harmful or not. Here are some constructive ways of thinking about stress:

“My body is helping me to rise to this challenge!”

“My body has the built-in mechanisms to deal with stress.”

“I trust myself to handle life’s challenges well.”

“I remember that I am always supported to face life’s challenges!”

“I love my job.”

“I thrive on being busy.”

“I handle deadlines well.”

“I am peaceful and calm in every moment.”

 

 

To shift your personal stress perception and clear out limiting beliefs that cause unhealthy stress, contact me

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

905-286-9466

What is the Nocebo Effect?

Most of us have heard of the placebo effect, but do you know what the nocebo effect is?

The power of the placebo effect has been repeatedly proven. Bruce Lipton, for example, sites in his book “Biology of Belief” a “New England Journal of Medicine” study from 2002 on surgery for osteoarthritis of the knee.

The patients were divided into three groups. One group received real knee surgery, one group received no surgery and the placebo group received “fake” surgery. These patients in the last group believed they had been operated on.

The fascinating outcome is that the placebo group improved just as much as the group that received real surgery.

The nocebo effect is the exact opposite of the placebo effect. The nocebo effect occurs when the mind is engaged in negative beliefs and self-suggestions than damage the health of the person.

Bruce Lipton mentions the example of a patient who was falsely diagnosed with cancer of the esophagus, which in 1974 was considered 100% fatal. The patient died believing he was terminally ill.

Both the placebo and the nocebo effects show that the power of our mind is our real healing power. That is were Rob Williams technique PSYCH-K® comes in.

If you want to know more about reprogramming negative beliefs about your health and replacing them with positive beliefs using PSYCH-K®, or hypnosis contact

Belief Change Coach Angelika

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

905-286-9466