Attracting the Flu

My friend Barbara Ptak just share in a newsletter that she “created the flu for herself”. I had to say “ditto”, so did I. Some of you might think, “WHAT? How is that possible. You get the flu because of a flu virus and your immune system not fighting it off.” Right. And why does your immune system sometimes fight off the “bugs”, and other times it does not? You might say, “not enough sleep, not enough vitamins, unhealthy lifestyle”, maybe you will even say “too much stress”.

So, let’s examine that for a moment. What does too much stress mean? I experienced serious cold symptoms for the second time in five weeks. The first cold turned into a sinus infection, which I attracted ten days before Christmas, and it had to do with what sinus infections are often related to: hurt and anger. Another grief piece surfaced for me around the anniversary of a betrayal. There was something else to process, to forgive and to let go of. 2019 rolled around and I was full of zest again to create a fabulous new year. Two weeks later, I attracted another cold that knocked me out for three days. What was going on this time?

Remember “A Cold Means Your Body Speaks Your Mind”. As Louise Hay taught us, upper respiratory illnesses are related to “too much going on at once, mental confusion, disorder, small hurts” (L. Hay, Heal Your Body, 25). A question Deb Shapiro has us ask is: Do you need some time to yourself to adjust to something? (Shapiro, Your Body Speaks Your Mind, 184) Louise Bourbeau looks at all physical symptoms as a protective function and suggests to inquire: What is this cold preventing me from doing or having? What is it allowing me to do or have? (Bourbeau, Your Body’s Telling You: Love Yourself, 149)

I definitely had too much going on and a lot to digest. Some surprises that required me to revaluate my business and the near future surfaced ten days into the new year. Some parts of me were excited that these unforeseen events brought new opportunities and required me to be more creative in my manifestations in 2019. Some parts were optimistic and would tell me “it will all work out”. Other parts in me were scared by the upcoming changes and the unknown aspects all change inevitably brings with it. Hence, an inner conflict manifested in respiratory symptoms. Ultimately, the cold allowed me three days to take good care of myself.

Since the beginning of 2019, I had put myself on a strict regime of getting up at 6:00 a.m., journaling, doing my inner work, exercising, and then working on my book. I even felt I had to get up at 6:00 a.m. on Sundays. We all have different parts inside of us. The parts in me which love being productive and get a kick out of getting things done were totally on board with this regime. Other parts in me who felt there should be more time for rest and for play were not heard. And voilà, the flu which required me to sleep for two days non-stop, gave those parts the so longed for rest and permission to do absolutely nothing.

If you have a cold or even the flu right now and you feel up to exploring the emotional and mental side of these physical symptoms, you might want to ask yourself

  1. What was going on just before it started?
  2. What stress were you experiencing?
  3. What was going on in your life that was perhaps “too much”, “overwhelming”, “confusing”, “chaotic” or “hurtful”?

Once you have a sense of how parts of you are trying to help you with this break, you can clear out the stress. If you are familiar with tapping, you could tap. Or you could communicate with the parts of you that feel overwhelmed, in the tradition of IFS. If you know how to do an emotional release process, you could release the emotions you are stuck in. You can also use affirmations in the tradition of Louise Hay, or even turn these affirmations into belief statements to change at a subconscious level. PSYCH-K® and Shadow Energetics both provide ways of changing beliefs in the subconscious mind.

Possible Affirmations or Belief Statements:

  1. I allow myself to relax and let go of all stress.
  2. I let go of all mental confusion / disorder / hurt / disappointment etc.
  3. I allow my mind to relax and be at peace.
  4. Clarity and harmony are within and around me.
  5. All is well and I am well.

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Why Am I Happy? – How to Ask Empowering Questions

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PSYCH-K® is a technique which balances affirmations at a subconscious level. These changes to our belief system are made when we are in a whole brain state. Science of Mind uses spiritual mind treatments to change our mind and to help us create what we really want to create.

If you don’t know how to do either, here is an easy way to change the vibration of what you are sending out.

When you ask yourself a question, your mind automatically begins searching for answers.

Why don’t I make more money?

Why am I always getting sick?

Why is it so hard to find my soulmate?

Why doesn’t anyone love or appreciate me?

Why am I not happy? Why am I always sad?

Why am I such a loser?

Those questions automatically form your life. You are creating from that reality and from the feeling space that they put you in.

You can now go the traditional route of all self-help techniques and use affirmations:

I am abundant. I am rich.

I heal quickly and easily.

I meet my soulmate.

I am loved. I am appreciated.

I am happy and full of joy.

I am successful.

More powerful, however, is to change your questions. As we ask a question, we are automatically stepping into the energy of what we are asking and our mind begins to search for reasons why what we are asking is true. Your mind is asking questions all the time. Why not use this to your advantage and ask questions that put you in the energy vibration you want to be in to create a happier and more successful life?

Empowering questions are:

Why do I make more and more money? Why am I so rich?

Why does my body heal so quickly?

Why is it so easy for me to meet my soulmate?

Why am I so loved and appreciated?

Why am I always so happy and full of joy?

Why am I so successful?

Noah St. John recommends the following exercise:

  1. Take a moment and write down the five most disempowering questions that you have on your mind.
  2. Then take a moment to write down the equivalent powerful questions.
  3. Notice how your mind immediately begins to answer those questions. Feel the higher vibrational space you are automatically in.

“As you sow, so shall you reap”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

What you focus on, or in other words which thought seeds you plant, continuously produces results. You have the choice to focus on the seeds you want to plant and the thought flowers you want to grow by changing the questions you ask. Form questions that are affirming what you want, use what St. John calls “afformations” or powerful “why” questions.

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