Waiting for Others to Change

I had several conversations in the last couple of weeks which all boiled down to the same two key questions.

I talked to a young woman who is dreaming about moving abroad and having the adventure of her lifetime. What is holding her back? Her story about her relationship is her block. She is waiting for her boyfriend to “grow-up and come with her”. Her story is, “he either has to change and get on board, or I have to break up with him to live my life the way I want to. And I don’t want to break up with him.” While she is waiting for him to change, she is robbing herself of enjoying the relationship for what it is in the moment. He feels her disappointment, which underneath the surface is already growing into resentment. Her energy of waiting for him to be different from who he is choosing to be in this moment in time is slowly eating away at the relationship.

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The key question for her is, “Can you love him the way he is right now?” If the answer is no, it is time to break up. If the answer is “yes”, and “I can just enjoy being with him in this moment in time. I don’t need to know what is going to happen next year,” this relationship will still have lots of growth and learning opportunities for her.

The second key question is, “Can you love yourself enough to make the choice which is most empowering for yourself? What is most loving for you to do, if the change you are hoping for does not occur?” Her answer was clear. “It is most self-loving for me to move abroad without him.” Some of the beliefs the young woman had to change were: “It’s okay for me to say good-bye”, “I can handle loss well”, “I release all responsibility for others”, “I am loyal to myself and my own dreams and goals” and “I am only responsible for my own life”.

I spoke to a man who is waiting for his fiancée to clear up her debt. His condition for getting married to her is that she clears out her debt first. He has been waiting for a long time and the longer it takes, the more judgmental he seems to feel. He is not enjoying the relationship anymore. He feels helpless and out of control because she seemingly is sabotaging his timeline for buying a house and starting a family. He is asking himself why she does not love him enough to cut down her expenses and clear out the debt. That question is coming from HIS fear of not being lovable. Her love for him has absolutely nothing to do with her financial struggles.

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I can completely emphasize with not wanting to be affected by somebody’s debt. Yet, the same key questions apply for him: “Do you just love her when she is a good little girl and changes in the way and time you feel she should, or can you love her the way she is right now?” At the same time, he has to be very honest with himself and ask the second key question, “What is most self-loving for me to do, have or be in this situation?” He can continue waiting and feeling resentful. He can break up with her and attract a partner who is financially more stable. Or he can find a way to keep their finances separate, move forward in some way and love her, independent of her financial situation.

Some possible beliefs to test and balance for this young man were: “I love others for who they are and not for what they do”, “Our value as a person is independent from our financial worth”, “I trust my fiancée to make the decisions which are right for her” and “I deserve to keep my finances separate and feel financially secure”.

I had a conversation with a woman who is waiting for her husband of over 30 years to finally “get healthy”. She works out, watches what she eats, and uses natural remedies when she needs to. He is overweight, makes unhealthy food and drink choices and self-medicates heavily for all sorts of issues. The more she wants him to live healthier, the more he resists. He doesn’t hear that she is worried that he is causing damage to his body, or that she is afraid that he might not live as long as she. All he hears is criticism. He feels not good enough and is overwhelmed by her discipline and determination to have a healthy life style.

Pushing him won’t get her anywhere. She has to ask herself the same questions the young girl and the young man have to ask. “Can I take my energy back that I have invested into him changing and love him the way he is?” The second question is: “What is most self-loving for me to do, have or be in this situation?” If she just focuses on her own health and enjoys her wellness, he might want to join her. Nobody is going to change from a place of judgment; however, from a place of loving acceptance, it becomes possible. She might need to affirm or balance at a subconscious level, “I trust my husband to make the choices which are right for him”, and “I release any worry about the future and enjoy my life with him right now”.


Encouraging somebody to be the best they can be is different from investing our entire energy into them needing to change. Waiting, hoping or pushing for others to change, can distract us from making our own changes. We can get so busy criticising or fixing them, that we forget to do our own work.

Focusing on what is “wrong” with the other person, also has an immediate effect on how we experience life. We are in relationships to learn and grow. One of the main lessons is to learn to love others and ourselves unconditionally. Love is the best soil for growth and for change. As long as our energy is going toward wanting to change our partner, parent or child, we are robbing ourselves of appreciating and loving them for who they are. We are postponing being happy to a point in the future when the change we want has occurred; we are ultimately depriving ourselves of true happiness.

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Life and Belief Change Coaching, PSYCH-K®

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Happiness Formula

Around this time of the year, when we are doing our taxes, we might find ourselves re-assessing our charitable donations for the previous year. We might ask if we want to continue donating to the charities or organizations that we have donated to so far; are they still close to our heart, or do we want to re-direct that money and donate our time and/or money somewhere else?

Why is it an important question to ask? Because giving to others is an essential part of our own health and happiness. And the more we believe in a charitable cause and truly give from our heart, the more that heart energy circles back to us. By helping where we can, we acknowledge that we are all connected and inter-dependant. It is an opportunity for us to make a difference. Our voluntary choices, which include making the choice to give to others, make up 40% of our experience of being at peace with our life or of what we also refer to as happiness.

The Chopra Well Launch Event

Deepak Chopra talks about a formula for happiness which scientists have found. This formula for Happiness is

H = S + C + V

Happiness = the Set Point in the Brain + the Conditions of Living + our Voluntary Choices

The Set Point in the Brain is the happiness we received in our genes, what we experienced in uterus and in the first three years of our life. That “ability” for happiness makes about 50% of our feeling of happiness. This sounds terrible given that most of us had experiences as young children with parents or other care givers who weren’t really happy themselves. However, the good news is, the set point in the brain can be rewired, changed with belief work, with cognitive therapy (questioning our thoughts and beliefs) or with techniques like Hypnosis or PSYCH-K® that rewire the subconscious mind. We can unlearn old limiting or negative beliefs and overwrite them with supporting positive beliefs about ourselves and our world.

The Conditions of Living, which we always like to think are the only determining factor for our happiness, are responsible for only 10% of our happiness! How much money we have, for example, does not make us lastingly happy. It has been shown that even when somebody wins in the lottery, their level of happiness after a while returns to the level it was at before.

That leaves 40% for the Voluntary Choices. Those are choices we make for pure pleasure (e.g. activities, food, sex etc.) and even more importantly choices that bring us fulfillment (being creative or spiritual, being helpful and giving, for example donating our time or money to a charity, or simply making someone else happy through attention, affection and appreciation) The more we give positive attention to others, the more we show them affection and appreciation, the happier we are and the happier they are. The secret ingredients to Happiness are the three As: Attention, Affection and Appreciation.

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There is one more factor to Happiness not contained in this formula, which is the Existential Unhappiness when we have resentments or other negative feelings about the past or worry about the future. The human being is the only creature who can replay negative events from the past and make him/herself thoroughly unhappy in the present, or worry about not being happy in the future with the same effect. Knowing this, it is important to let go of the past and not worry overly about the future.

 

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905-286-9466

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

 

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TV Interview

Yesterday, I was on the show “Health Matters” on Rogers Local TV with my good friend Lisbeth Fregonese, the founder of the Burlington Wholistic Wellness Expo. Lisbeth and her husband Ed, together with their team, are the organizers of a fantastic event which takes place twice a year. Both Lisbeth and Ed are passionate about natural health and wellness, and have their own business, Luminous Energetic Pathways in Burlington.

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This year the BWWE is on Sunday, May 31 at the Holiday Inn in Burlington. The second expo of the year will—for the first time in the history of the Expo—take place in the fall in Hamilton. If you buy a ticket from one of the practitioners or vendors in advance, the entry fee is only $25.00. Included in that fee are free mini-treatments from all practitioners. As each year, Michael Moon will again provide his healing music for us. One of the highlights of the show is the morning event, which this year features shamanic practitioner and Hay House author Dr. Stephen Farmer. He will speak about healing ancestral karma.

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 Stephen Farmer

One of the questions our host Sunita Mohan asked me was why I choose to return to this Expo as a practitioner over and over again. In fact, it is not only me but my entire family. My partner takes part in this expo demonstrating laser acupuncture, my daughter Cara is a distributor for Organo Gold, healthy alkaline coffees and teas, and my younger daughter helps me at my Greendoor table, where I offer mini PSYCH-K® sessions. PSYCH-K® is a way to quickly and effectively change subconscious beliefs.

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With my daughter Cara, Lisbeth Fregonese, and our host Sunita Mohan

This is an Expo we all wouldn’t miss! It is a very different event from so many other fairs or shows I participated in over the years—for practitioners as well as for visitors. Lisbeth has an amazing talent to pick heart-centred participants who are truly interested in the community. Over the last four years the Expo has grown from 40 tables to 115 tables. Lisbeth is an amazing organizer with a fabulous team of volunteers; everything flows smoothly and the energy is high vibrational. This Expo is about giving and sharing. It is about education and opportunities for the visitors to try out something new without having to pay a fortune to find their perfect fit. The participating practitioners do not view each other as competitors but as a family in which everybody works together to create greater health and happiness.

 

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If you are a heart-centred practitioner who still wants to join our team,

contact Lisbeth

289-828-3640

burlingtonwholisticwellness@gmail.com

 

If you want to enjoy a fabulous Sunday for only $25, contact me for tickets to this event.

Angelika

905-286-9466

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

BURLINGTON WHOLISTIC WELLNESS EXPO

WHEN? Sunday, MAY 31, 2015

10:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

10:00 a.m. -12:00 p.m. morning event with Stephen Farmer & Michael Moon, (limited seating, register early)

12:00 p.m. – 6:00 p.m. door to hallways are open

WHERE? Holiday Inn Burlington

3063 South Service Rd, Burlington, ON

 

Receiving Guidance

Oracle cards are an ancient method to receive guidance. They can help to answer questions we have about an issue we are faced with and to access our intuitive wisdom. Based on the spiritual Law of Attraction, certain cards show up which are related to what our soul already knows but we are not able to see clearly, because it is just on the edge of our consciousness. The cards help bring forth that inner knowing into our conscious awareness. They provide insights into those previously submerged thoughts, feelings and beliefs which we need to become aware of and work with. The insights can show us which thoughts and beliefs we might want to alter so that we can make choices which are congruent with our soul’s purpose.

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One of my favourite card decks is “Messages from Your Animal Spirit Guides” by Stephen Farmer, who is going to be our key note speaker at the 2015 Burlington Wholistic Wellness Expo on May 31. Farmer is a shamanic practitioner, minister and psychotherapist and the author of several books about spirit animals, also called totem animals or power animals. This beautiful illustrated deck of cards features different animals and gives us a brief message from each of them. The accompanying guide book includes a longer description on how to interpret each card’s general meaning.

You can use oracle cards like these on your own, or in a group. Centre yourself and set a clear intention or ask a clear question. The question can be very specific or open ended like “What do I need to know right now?” One way to receive the answer is to shuffle the deck. Sometimes a card seems to fall out. Trust that “coincidence” that this is your card. If no card “jumps out”, stop shuffling when you get the intuitive sense to do so. Then pull a card either from the top of the deck or anywhere in the deck that you are guided to draw from. As you look at the card, pay attention to the first thing that comes to mind. Which parts of the card’s message resonate with you and how?

Last weekend, at our monthly PSYCH-K® practice group, which I offer for the students of Darryl Gurney’s classes, we used Stephen Farmer’s card deck to receive additional insights on which beliefs everybody might want to change. Three cards showed up more than once which was interesting as the participants worked together in groups of two. The same subjects re-emerged for everybody to pair up in teams with a matching topic. Some of the cards which showed up were the boar, the blue heron, the walrus and the bumblebee.

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The boar encourages to “face your problems head-on with confidence and courage, and you will emerge victorious”. It’s a call to dig in and rummage around until you have discovered how to solve the current problem you have. Then you need to take immediate action to remedy it. Emerging victorious could be to either having conquered the problem or having changed your thinking about the situation, or both. Possible statements to balance might be “I deserve to get what I want” or “I always succeed in my endeavours” or “I am confident in my decisions”. Obviously each individual situation somebody is facing will give this message a personal aspect of what supportive beliefs are needed.

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The blue heron asks to “make a stand for what you believe in and do what feels right in spite of any judgment or disapproval from others”. Trust your deepest sense of knowing what the best action is for you. Don’t rely on others telling you what to do or on their assessment of you. Possible beliefs to change might be “I care less and less what other people think” or “I trust my own opinion and feelings” or “It’s ok for me to displease others to be true to myself”.

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The walrus warns to “remain vigilant about the current situation; pay attention to signs and omens, and let them dictate your choices”. Watch, listen and feel. Be aware of your dreams and other messages. You might want to journal and watch out for repetitions. Does it feel like a certain career situation or relationship is a call to set clear boundaries and to make new choices or changes? Possible beliefs to balance might be “I release all fear and attachment to a specific outcome” or “I trust the guidance I receive” or “I make conscious choices”.

 Oracle Card - Honeybee

The honeybee advises to “let compassion and forgiveness be your top priority in this situation”. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, it does not mean saying somebody was wrong or right, it does not mean loving a person, it just means to release and free up the energy we have bound up with the feelings we have about a certain person or situation. Forgiveness requires that we acknowledge and accept responsibility for our judgments and that we release them. To forgive means to go beyond right and wrong. Sometimes we forget the most important person when we forgive: ourselves. Possible statements can be “I forgive… (insert person’s name) for … (insert what they have done or didn’t do)” or “I forgive myself for… “

 

Forgiveness

is the gift that you give yourself

that frees you from the pain

that you gave yourself by judging others negative.

 

Angelika 905-286-9466, greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

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Truth and Vulnerability

I was at a very different and heart-opening networking event in Oakville yesterday. A small group of like-minded practitioners got together to support each other. The topic of the meeting was “Truth and Vulnerability”. The hostess was doing an amazing job at creating a safe space for everybody to share their vulnerable place.

What was interesting to see is how our perception plays a big part in being in that place of not feeling safe. Two people can give the same facts a completely different meaning based on their belief systems, their individual challenges, and their goals.

A perspective we sometimes have is the “That’s not fair” story. I have been running a “That’s not fair” story myself recently. Not only does this story make us feel like a victim, it also disregards that there is a bigger picture: whatever shows up is happening for a reason, or two reasons, or three… There is something for us to learn.

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If everything that shows up is either a call for me to be Loving or for me to recognize the Love, it really changes our stories. The “This is not fair story” suddenly sounds completely different. We can re-write the story from Love.

Being in a loving presence in the presence of somebody who is temporarily showing up from a place of being out of Love is not easy. To be in that place of peace and Love, no matter what somebody else is doing or saying, requires that we notice the triggers and do our own work.

What if we asked, what does the situation invite me to do that I would otherwise not be doing? Maybe the learning is to let go of a certain attachment and open up to something new.

Releasing my particular “That’s not fair” story invites me to step out of my comfort zone. I prefer to market low key, and to fly just slightly under the radar. That has always worked well for me. All of a sudden though, the Universe is reminding me that I can step out more, be heard and seen louder and clearer; spread the word to more people. I can continue saying “it is not fair what so and so is doing” and I can delude myself that “I am being forced to do something I don’t want to do”, or I can just trust that this is happening because something better wants to unfold.

My good friend Lisbeth Fregonese, who organizes the Burlington Wholistic Wellness Expo, reminded me yesterday, that I have been – like many of us – a bit of a pioneer. I have been a PSYCH-K® hub for Darryl Gurney’s students in the GTA. I have been sponsoring his workshops 3-4 times a year and running a monthly practice group for his students.

That energy draws further similar energy in. It calls for more, for a stronger presence in the Golden Horseshoe, which will ultimately be known as the Healthiest Community on Earth. Matt Scherb, again another pioneer, started this initiative and the ball is rolling continuously to manifest this vision.

Now, the question is, in which direction am I expanding next, to respond to this shift in energy and to create new foot-prints? I trust the Universe has a plan already and I just need to follow the synchronicities and guidance.

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Who is Darryl Gurney?

When we have decided we want to learn a technique and take a class it is not always easy to choose which teacher or instructor is right for us. Some of us just need to look at a photo of a person and we can feel the energy, others might want to do a bit more research and go by testimonials.

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I have been friends with Darryl Gurney for many years and have sponsored his workshops in the GTA for the last few years. Over the years of first taking all his classes and then sponsoring them, I have heard others echo my feelings over and over again, “He is the best teacher I have ever come across in the alternative health field”.

What makes somebody the best teacher? At the top of the list are integrity and honesty. Secondly, a true desire to change this world. Thirdly, his strong heart-centred focus. He teaches with clarity and is a true role model. He truly lives PSYCH-K®, Holoenergetics® and Shadowenergetics. Many people can teach the techniques of a system, but I have yet to see another person who can connect so lovingly from heart to heart with every student in the class.

We all have taken classes in which the teacher was triggered by a participant, or in which we just didn’t feel quite comfortable. Taking one of Darryl’s workshops is a totally different experience. Darryl has done his own work for many years and creates a space in which every single person feels accepted and appreciated. The energy is one of non-judgment, safety and love. However, what stands out most about Darryl is his ability to make the entire room roar with laughter. His humour and wonderful way of looking at the world connects and unites us all. Everybody leaves with new insights, deeper understanding of themselves and others, and with the feeling of being lovable exactly the way we are.

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This is what some of our students are saying about Darryl Gurney:

 

I had the privilege of having Daryl as my teacher in the Spring and I was blown away by his expertise. He really walks his talk. He is so passionate about helping his students get the most out of his courses and grow to be the best they can be. He is truly an expert in his field. Thanks, Daryl!!!

– Jennifer Song, Burlington

 

Taking the basic and the advanced Psych-K with Darryl Gurney was a wonderful experience in every aspect. The courses were very well organized and the locations carefully chosen. The energy and atmosphere felt just perfect, right from the beginning.

Darryl is a gifted teacher. His fun and creative ways make it easy to understand and learn. Especially the advanced Psych-K is an intense course and a lot to take in. Darryl was always aware of the needs of the group and he would restore our energy with fun Qigong exercises.

What sets Darryl apart is his heartfelt personality. He has a special gift to create a safe space where deep healing can happen. He is not just somebody who learned a technique and decided to teach it. Psych-K is an integral part of his personal life and it shows in the way he understands and supports each individual’s experience on their own journey through life.

Psych-K has become an important part of my life as well. I feel very grateful and blessed that I had Darryl as my teacher and mentor.

– Julia Trenkle, Oakville

 

I have taken three courses taught by Darryl Gurney to date. I don’t think I can adequately relay what an amazing experience, each and every day has been. Although the subject matter is incredible, I do not believe that I would have absorbed as much or been as present had it not been for Darryl’s passion, insight, compassion and amazing sense of humour. The only words that adequately describe how I feel are “he has saved me”. I could not imagine a more perfect instructor for PSYCH-K.

-Karolyn K., Milton

 

I have worked as a holistic practitioner since 1999 and have taken a multitude of courses during that time. I first met Darryl Gurney in 2005 at a basic level Psych-K course he was teaching. I enjoyed his teaching style immensely and later took the Advanced Psych-K course with him as well as a Holoenergetics course and a Shadow Energetics course. Whenever I am able I retake his courses just to be in the great energy he creates.   I have invited many people to participate in his courses as I feel that he is the very best instructor in his field. You always come away from his courses with way more than just a technique. He gives his whole heart and soul to his work. Darryl teaches with love, lots of humor and a great depth of understanding of his subject. Whenever I am with Darryl I am inspired to be a better person just by his example. Thank you Darryl. You are one of my life’s great blessings and I thank God for you.

– Fern Wolf, Georgetown

 

I have taken half a dozen PSYCH-K and other energy related training courses with Darryl Gurney. He is a fantastic facilitator. I am a business consultant in Learning and Development and have spent over 20 years designing and facilitating adult training courses and curriculums and Darryl is at the top. He is fun, thorough, patient and very committed to the subject and his students. I really believe that Darryl is the reason the workshops are so impactful. I have and will continue to recommend others to take his workshops. They are fabulous.

– Jenny Rice, Toronto

 

When I decided that I wanted to learn about PSYCH – K, I did some research and found Darryl Gurney. I feel absolutely blessed to have been able to take the Basic PSYCH – K course, the ADVANCED PSYCH – K course as well as the SHADOW – ENERGETICS course from Darryl. I have learned so much from Darryl and it has been life changing. Darryl teaches his courses with integrity, expertise and humour. I have rarely met anyone in life that walks the talk more than Darryl. Darryl has spent years learning and practicing PSYCH – K and I have experienced that focus and dedication in two ways. First of all, the courses he teaches are excellent because Darryl knows his subject so well he is able to teach it with ease, in detail and with obvious expertise. Secondly, it is obvious that Darryl has practiced PSYCH – K in depth because of the person that he has become. He is able to love and accept all individuals. He creates a safe learning environment where people are able to share and express the various fibres of their being. That is truly where learning, healing and change can take place. I am looking forward to taking another course from Darryl where I can continue to refine, change and heal the fibres of my being.

– Beth Pearsell, Hamilton

 

UPCOMING CLASSES with Darryl Gurney

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Basic PSYCH-K® Training in Milton,

February 28 / March 1, 2015

Saturday, Feb. 28, 2015 from 8:30 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

Sunday, March 1, 2015 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

Monday, March 2, 2015 Optional Practice Day from 10:00-1:00, $50.00

LOCATION:

St. Paul’s United Church, 123 Main Street, Milton, ON

Saturday and Sunday $425.00 Early Bird, if deposit of $100 received by Feb. 6, $475.00 after Feb. 6

Bring a friend early registration is $375.00 each

Retake $100.00

 

Holoenergetics Workshop

Friday, March 6 – Sunday, March 8, 2015

HOURS:

Friday, March 6 from 8:30 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

Saturday, March 7 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

Sunday, March 8 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

LOCATION:

Milton or Mississauga

EARLY BIRD: $575 – if $150 deposit received before February 12, $650 thereafter (Prices include tax)

 

Integrity, Cooperation and Heart-Centredness

An interesting phenomenon came my way over the weekend, a concept I had almost forgotten about: competition versus co-operation. The idea of competition comes from us being in a place of fear, from feeling separate and alone. Cooperation, on the other hand, is knowing that we are all connected and can help each other because there is no need to fear a lack.

I am very blessed to be in a field in which most people understand that there is enough abundance for all. When somebody approaches us because they want to learn or do what we do, we openly share. Ultimately, somebody has helped us along the way. We are what we are due to the support we have received. When we network and we have overlapping skills or talents, we trust that we can work together for the highest benefit of everybody. Beautiful collaborations have come out of that philosophy.

There is no need to fearfully hang onto what it yours, to be sneaky and hurt somebody else to have an advantage over them. Everything is energy. Dishonesty and a lack of integrity are in the long run going to come back to the person who has chosen it.

Experiencing that somebody in our field chooses unnecessary and aggressive competition and dishonesty over cooperation and fairness surprised me immensely. The woman who made this unfortunate choice is relatively new to the field of healing and spirituality and perhaps she has not understood, yet, that the Universe does not reward a lack of integrity.

Coming back from a beautiful networking meeting yesterday morning with a room full of heart-centred people who are all committed to raising the vibration in this area of the world has restored my faith in my fellow humans again and has filled my heart with peace.

As my friend, Matt Scherb, reminded us at that meeting, we only need 1 square root of 1% of the population to change the consciousness on this planet and the life quality for everybody. This is called the Maharishi effect, named after Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, who proved that one square root of 1% of a population practicing the Transcendental Meditation® technique produces measurable improvements in the vibration away from fear, crime, violence, competition and egocentric thinking to love, lower crime rates and less violence, cooperation and group thinking.

Another way of changing that vibration are the heart-centred workshops which my friend Darryl Gurney teaches. He used to be my mentor and is still a man I greatly admire, as he really personifies Love. Whether he teaches the participants PSYCH-K® (Belief Changes), or Holoenergetics (Healing with Love), or Shadow Energetics (Shadow work) he always raises the energy of the entire group through his role modelling and beautiful presence. Becoming a part of the PSYCH-K® family is an experience full of laughter, personal healing and insights, all while learning techniques to help others.

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UPCOMING WORKSHOPS:

Basic PSYCH-K® Training in Milton,

February 28 / March 1, 2015

Saturday, Feb. 28, 2015 from 8:30 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

Sunday, March 1, 2015 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m.

Monday, March 2, 2015 Optional Practice Day from 10:00-1:00, $50.00

LOCATION:

St. Paul’s United Church, 123 Main Street, Milton, ON

Saturday and Sunday $425.00 Early Bird, if deposit of $100 received by Feb. 6, $475.00 after Feb. 6

Bring a friend early registration is $375.00 each

Retake $100.00

 

“The secret of life is BELIEF. Rather than genes, it is our beliefs that control our lives. PSYCH-K® is a set of simple, self-empowering processes to change your beliefs and perceptions that impact your life at a cellular level.”

– Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., author of The Biology of Belief, Spontaneous Evolution, and The Honeymoon Effect

 

 

Holoenergetics Workshop

Friday, March 6 – Sunday, March 8, 2015

HOURS:

Friday, March 6 from 8:30 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

Saturday, March 7 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

Sunday, March 8 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:30 p.m.

LOCATION:

Milton or Mississauga

EARLY BIRD: $575 – if $150 deposit received before February 12, $650 thereafter (Prices include tax)

Connecting With a Loved One Who Has Passed On

One of the most powerful and deeply heart opening experiences is the PSYCH-K® Relationship Balance with a loved one who has passed on. In this process another person stands in for the soul who has passed. It gives the client an opportunity to deeply connect once again with a family member or friend who has crossed over and to say and/or hear what they always wanted to hear. The more intuitive the stand in happens to be the more touching the experience often is.

At the four day Advanced PSYCH-K® this November, we had several deeply healing encounters which involved bringing somebody in who is not in a physical body anymore. The experience often brings peace to the person who was left behind to continue this life. They might not have had a chance to say good-bye, or to hear what they always hoped to hear from their loved one.

This can also be a huge growth experience for the stand-in. The stand in person can experience what it is like to intuitively tune into the energy of the passed on person and to sense what needs to still be said. Some people are so good at surrogating for the passed on spirit that they can literally feel all the emotions and channel the energy and words from the other side.

 

Here are some testimonials from participants…

Carolyn:

“My Dad, Mike, died in September 2012, four days before my birthday, very quickly, within six weeks, from an aggressive multiple myeloma cancer. He didn’t like it, but he exuded great dignity and pride during this time. My mom and I speak to him often but lately I have had the wish to see him again and to hear him speak to me.

In preparation for this workshop, I already received different messages that my Dad is around. Just recently, my car died in the middle of nowhere, when I noticed a sign saying “Mike’s Auto Parts and Service”. It was a Sunday morning at 9:00 a.m. What was the likelihood of anybody being in the shop to help me? I called and the garage owner, Mike, was in his shop working on the car of his own daughter. This is just one message of several.

When James volunteered to surrogate for my Dad, my Dad saw his chance and jumped right in. That is exactly what he was like. And he would have picked a gentle soul like James to come through. James just went with the flow and intuitively channelled the perfect words.

The experience was very touching and moving. Love beyond Love. It was a Divine gift of love, a miracle, to hold and hug my dad and to feel his love once again. It was deeply moving to exchange words and emotions. When my Dad asked through James how my mom was and I said she is doing great, he said “Are you sure?” I again felt that this is exactly what he would ask. The words “I have faith in you,” which James spoke to me in my father’s place during the bonding part of the process resonated deeply with me and ties into what I have been focusing on lately to step into my full potential. The words “You are enough, “I said to my Dad were powerful and healing, spoken from love and truth, freeing him from error perceptions and opening the door for my Dad’s soul transformation and growth. And ultimately affecting the growth and change of all of us. Beautiful!

I feel that James and I gave each other a great gift. I had another chance to speak to my Dad and James was able to experience that we can all channel the energy of another person, whether on the earth plane or the spirit world.”

Carolyn and her dad MikeCarolyn and her dad

James stood in for Carolyn’s Dad Mike who passed on two years ago. This is how James experienced being the surrogate:

“Before we could even ask permission for me to surrogate for Mike, he literally “jumped in”. It felt like my knees got weak and I immediately had an incredible sense of love and joy in my heart. All pain in my own body dissipated. I had an overwhelming feeling that I was really looking at my own child who I hadn’t seen in a long while. I took a step towards her and was guided to hug her and hold her like she was my daughter. The facilitator stepped back and allowed us our moment of reconnecting. Our conversation just flowed easily and naturally but I cannot recall anymore than what I was guided to say to my daughter.

The facilitator muscle tested the belief points but they were all strong. So we proceeded to the bonding part of this process which gives both partners an opportunity to hear what they need to hear. Intuitively, I knew that Carolyn needed to hear her dad say, “I have faith in you”. The phrase just popped into my mind. I also felt that Mike needed to hear that he was enough as a father.

It was extremely touching to do this bonding ritual of using a whole brain movement and taking turns telling each other what we needed to hear. We cried tears of joy and happiness. I feel so honoured to have been able to allow Carolyn to connect with her dad again.”

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Aliesha:

“At the Advanced Psych K Workshop my intention was to work on myself with a focus on releasing the sadness that I hold, especially when it comes to my Father’s death.  I was 9 years old when he died and just 7 years old when he was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma Cancer.  I was very close to my Dad when he died, I was ‘Daddy’s little girl’ and so his death was especially traumatic for me.

I only had to look at Andrew, who was surrogating for my Dad, Ward and I started to cry.  Andrew had similar facial features to my Dad.  I can’t put into words the way Andrew looked at me, I was looking at my Dad.  When the facilitator muscle tested both us, my Dad was strong and I went weak.  I had many weak points and that didn’t surprise me.  His death has had a huge impact on my life.  Each time I turned to face my Dad I started to cry.  I could just feel how much I missed him.  What was interesting though, as we balanced the statements, I could feel myself starting feel better, stronger, lighter somehow.  When it came time to the statements, I was to come up with both of them.  In the moment, there were so many things to say but only a few came to mind.  ‘I miss you so much Dad’ was mine and his was ‘I wanted to be here for you, I never wanted to leave’.

I never felt like I had the opportunity to say goodbye to my Dad, and I always felt that if I was somehow different, he’d still be here.  So to hear those words from him, I was touched beyond words.  The best part though, I got to hug him and what a beautifully long hug!  At that point we just exchanged words and I said, “I know I have to let you go, but I don’t want to.” And that’s when he said “I love you, I’m always with you; you’re always in my heart and just look inside your heart, that’s where you’ll always find me.”

This experience was incredibly touching for me.  It’s easy to try and tell yourself something consciously, it’s another to experience how deep the wounds go and how light you can feel after.  I don’t know how to put into words how I felt after, except lighter, more compassion for myself and faith that he’s still with me, still my Dad and I don’t feel nearly as sad.  I am deeply grateful for the experience and would do it again in a heartbeat!!“

 

A relationship balance can shift a relationship to one which is free of triggers and more loving, or it can bring closure to a relationship.

To do a PSYCH-K® Relationship Balance or a Shadow Energetics Relationship Alignment with somebody who is still alive or who has passed on contact

Angelika

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

905-286-9466

Three Buckets of Water

Imagine you have three buckets of water in front of you. The bucket on the left contains hot water, the bucket on the right cold water, and the bucket in the middle tepid water. You plunge your left hand into the bucket with hot water, and at the same time your right hand into the bucket with cold water. You leave your hands in the buckets for a couple of minutes. Then you simultaneously pull them out and put them both in the middle bucket.

What does your left hand tell you about the temperature in the middle bucket? What feedback does your right hand give you about the water in the same bucket?

Three Buckets

To your left hand, the water in the middle feels cold. However, for your right hand, the water appears to be hot. You could say that at the level of the buckets the hands are having an argument: “This water is cold!” “No, how can you not feel this! This water is hot!”

The buckets represent our conditioning, the experiences we have had and the beliefs we have learned. We all come from a specific bucket and have a different perception of the same reality.

When we remember that everybody comes from their own bucket, we can have true compassion for how others experience life and respond to it. Instead of insisting to be right, we can see things as relative to our “buckets”. If we want to experience the “water” rather as “hot” as opposed to “cold”, or vice versa, we need to change our own perception, which we have due to our individual conditioning. We need to examine our beliefs and change them at a subconscious level.

Bruce Lipton quote

We are running the next Basic PSYCH-K class on October 4 & 5, 2014 in Milton, Ontario. In this introductory class with Darryl Gurney, you will learn muscle testing and three different ways of changing a subconscious belief.

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At the end of the weekend, you will go home with a set of tools to quickly and efficiently change your beliefs. You will have given yourself the gift of choice what to belief and what to feel. You will be able to rise above your bucket and see things from a wider perspective.

PSYCH-K® – the Missing Piece

Usually, new clients find me after reading Bruce Lipton’s “Biology of Belief”. Lipton provides the scientific background for the fact that all the cells in our body are biochemically affected by our thoughts. He shows that genes and DNA do not control our biology. Instead, our DNA is controlled by signals from outside our cells, including the positive and negative thoughts we have and—on a deeper level—the supportive or limiting beliefs that we have been raised with.

From Bruce Lipton’s scientific foundation, new clients have usually been lead to Rob Williams, the founder of PSYCH-K®. While the biologist Lipton explains to us how our brain functions, Rob Williams holds the missing piece that tells us how to change limiting beliefs at the subconscious level.

What is PSYCH-K®?

PSYCH-K® uses Kinesiology to determine what our subconscious agrees with or doesn’t agree with. If it does not agree with a particular supportive belief, we have a permission protocol to follow to find out if it is in the highest wisdom and benefit to change a particular belief at a particular point in time and with which balance that can be done. The belief is then quickly and efficiently changed in a whole brain state. Afterwards, muscle testing confirms that a shift has been made. The client’s subconscious now agrees with that particular supportive belief. He or she is one step closer to easily and effortlessly reaching a particular goal.

I have been a full time PSYCH-K® practitioner for eight years. Over the years I have learned many techniques to assist my clients in making changes. Nothing has been as effective, efficient and life-changing as PSYCH-K®. I use PSYCH-K® with almost every client at least at some point during a session, if they have not booked an entire PSYCH-K® session to begin with.

Contact me for individual PSYCH-K® sessions or to take the PSYCH-K® training in the fall.

905-286-9466

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

 

The next Basic PSYCH-K® Training in the GTA (either Mississauga or Milton) is coming up October 4 & 5, 2014.

Darryl Gurney is also offering a Basic PSYCH-K® Training on July 26 & 27, 2014 in Vancouver.

Life Changes

Life changes, such as a birth or a death, getting married, getting divorced or even moving house have a way of “throwing us off our routine”. We need to make a new start, find the equilibrium again. These events have a way of shaking our beliefs and challenging the way we think and feel.

Some of these events we tend to classify as “happy” or “joyous”, others as “sad” or “stressful”. Yet, they all have one thing in common, they bring change and potentially the experience of not being in control.

How do you deal with change? Do you thrive on change? Do you welcome it into your life? Do you go with the flow, take things as they come? Or do you want things to stay the same or predictable.Do you need to feel like you are always in control? Or can you let go of all detachments to a particular outcome?

How you feel is entirely due to your beliefs about yourself and the world.

I just had such a big life change myself, and like all these events that turn our life upside down, these changes are a beautiful gift to re-examine our life. It is a call to go inside and check in on what our feelings and needs are. Are we holding onto old beliefs that do not serve us well? Is the story you are telling working for you?

Do the new parents feel that they are capable and that life with the newborn will be full of joy? Or are there fears and worries clouding this amazing experience?

Does the family who has to say good-bye to a loved one hold beliefs to support them through this time of grieving? Are they able to communicate their emotions and continue the legacy of the person who has passed with gratitude rather than with regret, guilt or angst?

Do bride and groom start their married life together with confidence, and open communication skills? Are they able to be in touch with their vulnerable sides and to connect from that vulnerability?

Do the partners who separate come from a peaceful place and a loving heart to establish a successful co-parenting relationship? Or does anger and hurt cloud everything?

Does the family who moves into a new neighbourhood, or even moves to melt two families with this move, communicate their individual needs and find compromises for everybody to get what they require? Can they be open and non-judgmental with each other while they work out a new routine?

 

For Life Coaching, to change your subconscious beliefs with PSYCH-K® and to learn more successful ways of communication contact Angelika

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

905-286-9466

Eureka Moment

One of the best moments for me when working with clients is when somebody has an “Aha! moment,” a Eureka experience. The Greek word Eureka means “I found it”.

What do they find? They find an important insight. They realize that we all create our experiences from our subconscious beliefs and that we have the power to change those beliefs. Through this, we are able to make changes to our thoughts, words, actions and our entire experience of life. I am blessed to be witness to epiphanies like this. Sometimes it happens before somebody comes to me to change their beliefs, sometimes it happens in the first session, sometimes at a later point.

I love that look on someone’s face when they realize that absolutely nothing can keep them from creating the life they truly want. All we need is to accept full responsibility for what shows up in our world. Or to quote Don Mottin: “There is no person, thought, idea, memory, image, feeling, or sensation out of the past, in the present, or ever to arrive in the future that could stop me from being successful”.

We live in a reciprocal Universe, and what we attract into our experience in based on our belief systems. As we change the beliefs, we are able to send out a different energy with our thoughts, words and actions. Anything that we can conceive of, we can achieve. Anything responds to the law of cause and effect. We are the cause for the effects in our life. Our thoughts, words and feelings have the power to manifest anything we can imagine and feel.

When your subconscious agrees with beliefs that support you in reaching your goals and dreams, it is easy and effortless to create the reality you truly want. Hypnosis and PSYCH-K® are techniques to efficiently change these subconscious beliefs.

For more information contact Angelika

greendoorrelaxation@yahoo.ca

905-286-9466