Fertility Issues and Your Partnership

Nicole is devastated. After 15 months of trying to conceive, and having had an early miscarriage a few months ago, her period has arrived once again. Her husband Jason just shrugs as he briefly lifts his head from the TV screen and says “Don’t Worry! We will Just Try Again”.

Nicole feels like she wants to shake him. He just doesn’t get it! She wants to yell at him, “Why aren’t you upset? Don’t you want a baby, too?” Underneath the anger, a feeling of intense loneliness and inadequacy takes hold of her. It is bad enough that she has to deal with the fact that this life-long dream of hers is not becoming reality the way she had hoped and planned. Now she also feels completely disconnected from Jason. She had to admit that it was helpful that he had been calm and tried to be her rock when she had the miscarriage, but it still felt like he simply did not understand what the loss and the ongoing failure meant to her.

What Nicole forgets is that Jason might be dealing with this challenge differently. As women, we have learned to express our vulnerable emotions more than most men. We have also learned that being a mother is an essential part of life. We often plan our entire life, including marriage and motherhood. Being able to conceive fulfills—for a lot of women—several heartfelt desires; the desire for the companionship children and grandchildren bring, the desire to feel a new life growing inside, to give birth and nurture this fragile human being, and last but not least, the sense of purpose that can be derived from parenting and raising the next generation. The idea of fertility is often tightly linked to our self-identity as women. Therefore, trying to conceive unsuccessfully often cause anxiety, fear and grief.

Most men have not received the same messages about the importance of parenthood. Yet, for men, showing vulnerability and allowing the fear of failure can be more scary than we usually imagine. Men can also be terrified that their sperm won’t measure up and that they won’t be able to reproduce and give their partner what she most desires. Their female partners however, only perceive denial, indifference or stoicism. Trying and having difficulties conceiving takes a toll on a marriage or partnership.

The challenges around conceiving create different stresses for a couple. Sex can become a means to an end rather than a spontaneous expression of the need for closeness and love. The couple might disagree on when to get help and how much money to invest in often costly treatments. Fears and insecurities are triggered for both partners. More than ever, what the couple needs most during this stressful period is time to connect with each other, beyond fertility. How can they still enjoy life and each other totally unrelated to trying to conceive?

As modern day humans, we are so used to being able to control everything and obtain reliable results. We plan what job we want to do and make the choice to attend a certain school or learn a particular profession. We might plan to get married or buy a house and so on. Getting pregnant defies those expectations that we can plan everything in life. When the stork does not deliver as planned, it can feel like we are completely out of control in regards to making our dreams come true and it can appear completely unfair that other couples seem to be getting pregnant so much more easily.

However, even faced with fertility struggles, the question remains, “What choices can we make together as a couple?” Some examples are:

  • The choice to make time alone with each other and time with friends and family to experience carefree fun and laughter.
  • The choice to be loving and gentle with yourself and with each other, as you navigate this challenging period in your life. Even though it feels that way right now, infertility is not forever. You will find a way to meet your needs and create what you want.
  • The choice to find natural mood boosters like sunlight, exercise, yoga and enough sleep.

  • The choice to treat your mind and body well, for example by getting massages or giving each other massages, or by using relaxation techniques, meditation or hypnosis. The last three will come in handy when you are giving birth or raising your kids or in any professional or private situation where you are challenged.
  • The choice to see a relationship coach or therapist for couples sessions. As was the case with Nicole and Jason, fertility struggles often affect the relationship between the partners tremendously. A professional can help you to reconnect.
  • The choice to focus on everything you are grateful for that is part of a fulfilling life, for example by keeping a gratitude journal.
  • The choice not to ruminate and buy into depressing thoughts and limiting beliefs. I know! That is easier said than done. And that’s where one more choice comes in:
  • The choice to do the inner work and change limiting beliefs and fears into supportive beliefs. That increases your ability to move through this trying time more smoothly. You can make the choice to see a life coach or therapist on your own. Friends, family and your partner should not be your only support.


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Infertility – Issues, Fears and Emotions That Prevent Conception

Diane and Paul have been wanting to conceive for eight years. After trying to conceive naturally, they have done two rounds of IUI (Intra Uterine Insemination) and two rounds of IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) without success.

“I am a go-getter, a type A personality”, says Diane. “I am good at managing and I like things to be “just so”. Paul sometimes thinks I am too controlling and rigid. But I have achieved a lot in my life. I had athletic accomplishments, I have a masters degree and a very successful career. I have my diet under control. I eat very healthy, I barely drink, and I work out. I do everything to achieve this goal but the one thing I keep failing at is becoming a mother.”

What Diane says in her intake session is fairly typical for women who struggle with fertility issues. We are so used to being able to control everything, to plan our entire future, set our goals and then work hard at reaching them, that we expect it will be the same with conception, pregnancy and birth.

As Lynsi Eastburn, author of “It’s Conceivable!” and “The 3 Keys to Conception” and one of my mentors and teachers, likes to point out, “you can not left-brain a baby.” Conception is one of those areas that are exactly the opposite of doing. It is all about letting go of control, surrendering and allowing.

So if our main personality parts, like in Diane’s case, are a Driver/Pusher, a Perfectionist and a Rational/Analytical Self, it is going to be harder to let go and to relax. If you come to see me, we will work on achieving more separation from those parts. We want them to “step back” and to allow you to relax into this experience of conception and birth happening in its own time and its own way.

It is easy to see how stress at work or in our family would cause overwhelm, tiredness and anxiety, and how that can affect our fertility. Having personality parts that push us to be perfect at work and in our relationships causes us to override feelings of exhaustion, anxiety and overwhelm. That contributes greatly to stress and therefore to infertility.

However, conception goes beyond “stress”. Infertility is not simply a biological process of a tired body but it is a more complicated culmination of our deeper mind and body working together.

In his book “The Body-Mind Fertility Connection” James Schwartz documents studies that indicate that psychological and emotional blocks appear to be the root of many fertility issues. I have sited some of those scientific studies on this website. To read more click here. 

“For many women, the process of healing the emotional issues that are blocking pregnancy is a key component in unlocking fertility and opening the door to conception. The body and mind work as a synchronistic team.” (James Schwartz, The Body-Mind Fertility Connection)

When it comes to the very painful experience of infertility, we have to remember that our subconscious is always trying to protect us, not trying to hinder us and prevent us from reaching our goals. Our deeper mind is operating on the fears and beliefs which exist in the inner system. Here are some examples of what that can be:

– Feeling stressed or overwhelmed with life

For example, feeling overburdened with work, family or other situations. Our subconscious will respond to that by not allowing us to take on another burden (having a child)

– Fears around pregnancy or birth

For example, fears of doctors, hospitals, medical treatments, labour, giving birth, or our body changing

– Fears around parenthood

For example, beliefs that we or our partner won’t be a good parent; the idea that parenthood means a lot of sacrifice and a loss of independence; worries around balancing parenthood and career

– Fears around the marriage/relationship

For example, worries about the longevity of the relationship with our partner, or about the changes in the relationship, or about a lack of resilience due to the new challenges as parents

– Guilt and limiting beliefs around deserving

For example, due to an abortion in the past, or not having been a perfect parent to other children, or in regards to sexual abuse, rape or other traumas

– Fears of loss

For example, due to past miscarriages or stillbirths

– Rejection of physical functions

For example, beliefs that the female period is disgusting, that sex is dirty, or that giving birth is awful and messy

– Fears based on other people’s experiences

For example, our mother/sister/aunt etc. had difficulty conceiving or had challenging pregnancies/births, therefore we expect the same experiences

– Other limiting belief

For example, in regards to our age, “old eggs”, general health, body image issues etc.

If you read the points above, you might recognize some concerns, or you might consciously feel that there are no problems. However, subconsciously, certain programs might be running based on past experiences and learned beliefs which are stored deep in your mind, often completely without conscious awareness. Our subconscious mind can work for us. It can also work against us, if it is trying to protect us in a way that causes us to experience blocks like infertility.

“…the subconscious mind holds our habits, beliefs, behavioural patterns, anxieties, and fears that we have been accumulating since birth. Then, as adults, when we experience emotions like anxiety, sadness, fear, or anger, we are responding to the cumulative effect of the information and programming that has collected throughout our entire lifetime.” (James Schwartz, The Body-Mind Fertility Connection)

Conflicts, unresolved issues, fears and limiting beliefs send a message to the body at a cellular level. The very diagnosis of “unexplained infertility” means that the presenting infertility is psychosomatic.

Fortunately, any and all of those emotions and fears mentioned above can be healed. As the emotions, fears and issues are processed, conception rates increase dramatically.

To clear out limiting beliefs and fears that keep you from getting pregnant, and to shift into surrendering and allowing rather than trying to control the process of conceiving, I use hypnosis and belief change techniques like PSYCH-K®. The first session is 3 hours long due to an intensive intake, subsequent sessions are between 2 and 2 ½ hours.

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Leveraging the Placebo Effect

My friend’s husband has unknowingly been drinking caffeine-free coffee for the last three months. It worked just as well as regular coffee—until he found out that his wife and assistant had been conspiring for the sake of his health. The moment he found out it wasn’t “real” coffee and he shouldn’t be experiencing any stimulating effects, it stopped working.

Why did the caffeine-free substance work just as well for three whole months? That would be the placebo effect or the power of his mind. He expected it to work and hence experienced feeling more awake and less tired.

In the medical field, the placebo effect is defined as a measurable, observable, or felt improvement in health or behaviour that arises from the patient’s expectations concerning an inactive substance—like a sugar pill, distilled water, or saline solution—or a “fake” treatment rather than from the substance or treatment itself.

Different definitions speak about the expectation, or faith, or belief of the person as the defining factor for the placebo to work. Rob Williams, the founder of PSYCH-K®, a highly effective belief change system, suggests that it would be more fitting to refer to the placebo effect as the “perception effect”.

The western medical community has officially known about this phenomenon for 80 years. The American anaesthesiologist Henry Knowles Beecher discovered the placebo effect as a medic in World War II. After running out of pain-killing morphine, he replaced it with a simple saline solution but continued telling the wounded soldiers it was morphine to calm them.

If we have known about this for 80 years, why aren’t we leveraging the power of our mind more? The placebo effect should be a major topic of study in medical school. It gives doctors an efficient, side effect-free tool to treat disease. Instead it is often still regarded as something that is “all just in the person’s mind” and is linked to weak or suggestible patients.

We are all suggestible! Our world is full of suggestions, from the moment we wake up in the morning right up until we go to bed at night. The suggestions are on the radio, in the paper, on TV, and on the Internet. In fact, there are suggestions in this article that you are reading right now. Suggestions are littered throughout the media, whether they show up as supposedly objective news stories or commercials. They are on the bus and at work as we listen to other people sharing their beliefs. Beliefs are contagious. Suggestions are especially powerful when we enter the office of an authority like a doctor, a teacher or another person we admire and trust, like a Psychic we seek out for advice. And even when we are not listening to somebody outside ourselves, the suggestions are running in our own heads. We are constantly hypnotizing ourselves by repeating our current beliefs and stories.

Now, is that a problem? Not at all. We just need to harness the power of our subconscious mind and our beliefs and use them to our advantage. We need to be very aware of negative suggestions and we need to choose more supportive ones. We can literally change our biology and our health by what we believe to be true.

Bruce Lipton quote AUnfortunately, drug companies study patients who respond to the placebo effect with the goal of eliminating them from early clinical trials. (Greenberg, “Is it Prozac? Or Placebo?” 2003) An estimated one third of the population responds especially well to placebos. Those highly responsive people are eliminated before the drug is even tested. Drug companies obviously have no interest in researching the healing power we all have inside because we won’t need to buy drugs if we can actually heal from within. Knowing about the power of our beliefs and our ability to create our reality from those beliefs and perceptions, and to even change our biology, would open the door to a multitude of other possibilities for the human race. These potentialities would dramatically and completely change our consciousness level and affect the way we live. It would most likely be the end to many industries on the planet, the health industry being one of the foremost ones.

The Basic PSYCH-K® Training includes a documentary about different studies which illustrate that conventional medicine is often as effective as a placebo treatment. A Baylor School of Medicine study, published in 2002 in the New England Journal of Medicine, examined surgery for patients with severe and debilitating knee pain. The patients were divided into three groups. The surgeon, Dr. Bruce Moseley, shaved the damaged cartilage in the knee of one group. For the second group he flushed out the knee joint, removing all of the material believed to be causing inflammation. Both of these processes are the standard surgeries for severe arthritic knees. The third group only received a pretend surgery: the patients were sedated, the three standard incisions were made and then the surgeon talked and acted just as he would during surgery. All three groups were prescribed the same postoperative care which included an exercise program. The results were astonishing! The placebo group improved just as much as the other two groups who had surgery. The footage shows members of the placebo group walking and playing basketball.

Bruce Moseley quoteAnother area in which placebos have been proven to be highly affective is the antidepressant industry. A 2002 article published in the American Psychological Association’s prevention & treatment, by University of Connecticut psychology professor Irving Kirsch titled, “The Emperor’s New Drugs,” found that 80% of the effect of antidepressants, as measured in clinical trials, could be attributed to the placebo effect. Kirsch had to file a Freedom of Information Act request to even get his hands on the information on the clinical trials of the top six antidepressants on the market. In more than half of the clinical trials, the placebo worked as well as the drug. “The difference between the response of the drugs and the response of the placebo was less than two points on average on this clinical scale that goes from fifty to sixty points. That’s a very small difference, that difference is clinically meaningless.” (Kirsch)

Cell biologist Bruce Lipton also notes that the more antidepressants were talked about in the media and advertised for, the more effective they became. We are, as I mentioned earlier, all suggestible. We live in a culture where most people believe that anti-depressants work, and therefore they do.

A young man I know has recently been told that after taking a particular anti-depressant for six years his body had become accustomed to it and it would not work anymore. Guess what happened instantly after his doctor had given him this suggestion? Exactly! It stopped working for him. The one thing this young man can count on is that the doctor will next suggest this amazing new anti-depressant which will be all hyped up as working so much better. And it will indeed work. But not necessarily because the drug is all that it is made out to be, but rather because we believe it is. After all, anti-depressants are an $8.2 billion industry.

If we can heal by believing that a particular drug or treatment will cure us, what does this mean? It means that it is really our beliefs, thoughts, and feelings which are responsible for a change. We believe that the coffee will wake us up, or that the pain medication with a known brand name will reduce the discomfort, or that the anti-depressant will make us feel better. When it comes to depression, the general belief is that a chemical deficit in the brain is responsible. If our thoughts and emotions release different chemicals in the brain, wouldn’t it make more sense to work on a person’s thoughts and feelings to induce a different chemical state? Relaxation, meditation and belief change work are all a gift to claim our power to heal ourselves and to make any changes to our thoughts and experiences.

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The first thing which needs to change is for everybody to realize that we are constantly influenced and hypnotized to believe what the people around us believe. We have been brainwashed and programmed to believe that we need something outside ourselves to make changes to what we believe to be real, like our physical health. One of the hardest things to do is probably to go against our collective beliefs.

Somebody who has been diagnosed with a particular illness, whether that is cancer, MS, lupus, fibromyalgia, to just name a few of those big ones, has to not only defy any personal limiting beliefs but also the collective beliefs about what it means to have one of these diseases. Connie Kowalski, an amazing colleague of mine, has refused to play within the field of Lupus and has come back to perfect health after needing a wheelchair and everybody fearing she wouldn’t have long to live. She did deep healing work at a subconscious level. Another friend and colleague of mine, Allison Bastarache, has done the same for MS. She healed herself completely and has now stepped into her calling of being an energy worker and spiritual healer. As these two amazing women and their beautiful healing stories show, our potential healing power is truly limitless!

Are you ready to embrace your own power to change your reality?

PSYCH-K®, Hypnosis and NLP all give us tools to make changes.

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Happiness Formula

Around this time of the year, when we are doing our taxes, we might find ourselves re-assessing our charitable donations for the previous year. We might ask if we want to continue donating to the charities or organizations that we have donated to so far; are they still close to our heart, or do we want to re-direct that money and donate our time and/or money somewhere else?

Why is it an important question to ask? Because giving to others is an essential part of our own health and happiness. And the more we believe in a charitable cause and truly give from our heart, the more that heart energy circles back to us. By helping where we can, we acknowledge that we are all connected and inter-dependant. It is an opportunity for us to make a difference. Our voluntary choices, which include making the choice to give to others, make up 40% of our experience of being at peace with our life or of what we also refer to as happiness.

The Chopra Well Launch Event

Deepak Chopra talks about a formula for happiness which scientists have found. This formula for Happiness is

H = S + C + V

Happiness = the Set Point in the Brain + the Conditions of Living + our Voluntary Choices

The Set Point in the Brain is the happiness we received in our genes, what we experienced in uterus and in the first three years of our life. That “ability” for happiness makes about 50% of our feeling of happiness. This sounds terrible given that most of us had experiences as young children with parents or other care givers who weren’t really happy themselves. However, the good news is, the set point in the brain can be rewired, changed with belief work, with cognitive therapy (questioning our thoughts and beliefs) or with techniques like Hypnosis or PSYCH-K® that rewire the subconscious mind. We can unlearn old limiting or negative beliefs and overwrite them with supporting positive beliefs about ourselves and our world.

The Conditions of Living, which we always like to think are the only determining factor for our happiness, are responsible for only 10% of our happiness! How much money we have, for example, does not make us lastingly happy. It has been shown that even when somebody wins in the lottery, their level of happiness after a while returns to the level it was at before.

That leaves 40% for the Voluntary Choices. Those are choices we make for pure pleasure (e.g. activities, food, sex etc.) and even more importantly choices that bring us fulfillment (being creative or spiritual, being helpful and giving, for example donating our time or money to a charity, or simply making someone else happy through attention, affection and appreciation) The more we give positive attention to others, the more we show them affection and appreciation, the happier we are and the happier they are. The secret ingredients to Happiness are the three As: Attention, Affection and Appreciation.


There is one more factor to Happiness not contained in this formula, which is the Existential Unhappiness when we have resentments or other negative feelings about the past or worry about the future. The human being is the only creature who can replay negative events from the past and make him/herself thoroughly unhappy in the present, or worry about not being happy in the future with the same effect. Knowing this, it is important to let go of the past and not worry overly about the future.


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Eureka Moment

One of the best moments for me when working with clients is when somebody has an “Aha! moment,” a Eureka experience. The Greek word Eureka means “I found it”.

What do they find? They find an important insight. They realize that we all create our experiences from our subconscious beliefs and that we have the power to change those beliefs. Through this, we are able to make changes to our thoughts, words, actions and our entire experience of life. I am blessed to be witness to epiphanies like this. Sometimes it happens before somebody comes to me to change their beliefs, sometimes it happens in the first session, sometimes at a later point.

I love that look on someone’s face when they realize that absolutely nothing can keep them from creating the life they truly want. All we need is to accept full responsibility for what shows up in our world. Or to quote Don Mottin: “There is no person, thought, idea, memory, image, feeling, or sensation out of the past, in the present, or ever to arrive in the future that could stop me from being successful”.

We live in a reciprocal Universe, and what we attract into our experience in based on our belief systems. As we change the beliefs, we are able to send out a different energy with our thoughts, words and actions. Anything that we can conceive of, we can achieve. Anything responds to the law of cause and effect. We are the cause for the effects in our life. Our thoughts, words and feelings have the power to manifest anything we can imagine and feel.

When your subconscious agrees with beliefs that support you in reaching your goals and dreams, it is easy and effortless to create the reality you truly want. Hypnosis and PSYCH-K® are techniques to efficiently change these subconscious beliefs.

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Hypnosis and Laser Acupuncture Help with Weight Loss and Diabetes

Canada is one of the countries amongst the 30 OECD (Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development) member countries with the highest prevalence of diabetes. Diabetes is the sixth leading cause of death in Canada. In Ontario, there are approximately 1.2 million people with diabetes.

A known cause of diabetes is being overweight. “Furthermore, it is compulsively shown that diabetes, in a significant percentage of the population, can be prevented and/or reversed by achieving and maintaining a reasonably healthy weight.” (C. Devin Hastings, Journal of Hypnotism, March 2014)

What does Hypnosis have to do with weight loss and diabetes? To lose weight easily and effortlessly, we need to have supportive beliefs in place. Hypnosis is proven to help people make positive changes to their lifestyle by changing their beliefs, thoughts and habits. Hypnotic suggestions therefore effectively support your weight loss efforts. In addition, a healthy night’s sleep is essential to weight loss. Hypnosis is an excellent way to help you relax and sleep better.

Hypnosis can also be combined with laser acupuncture. Research has shown that stimulating specific acupuncture points in the ear will suppress your appetite and cravings and enhance your current diet and exercise program. Low level laser treatments are safe and effective. They speed up your metabolism, decrease your appetite, control your hunger cravings, and increase your endorphin levels: the natural “feel good” hormones in the body.

Greendoor Relaxation is associated with Imagine Laserworks Milton/Burlington. For interested clients, we work together in the areas of smoking cessation, weight loss and fertility.

Visit us at booths 7 and 8 in the Harvester Hall at the

Burlington Wholistic Wellness Expo on March 29, 2014

for more information.
Or contact

Angelika from Greendoor Relaxation 905-286-9466

on Diabetes Motivational Coaching and Weight Loss and Hypnosis


Allen from Imagine Laserworks 905-805-0213

for weight loss with the help of laser acupuncture.

Challenges of an Introvert: How to Become More Extroverted

Are you an introvert? Do you prefer listening over speaking? Do you feel somewhat uncomfortable being the centre of attention? Do you speak with a quiet voice? Are you creative and support others but dislike self-promotion? Then you are one of at least one third of the population who can be called an introvert.

Our Western society undervalues introverts greatly. Being successful or getting things done is often equalized with being an extrovert. Adapting to our extroverted society does not mean that you need to become something you are not. Soft power or quiet leadership is often very effective and enables others to step into their own power.

I am an introvert myself, yet like so many others I have trained myself to step out of that comfort zone to approach people and to speak in public. If you so like, I am a “pretend extrovert”. I am comfortable and even enjoy stepping into a more extrovert energy as long as I have quiet time in between to recharge.

In order to overcome some of the reluctance to step out of our introvert safety zone, we have to re-learn certain subconscious and conscious beliefs:

We really need to feel that it is okay to be the centre of attention. We have to learn to enjoy having all eyes on us. We need to know that people are interested in what we have to say and that what we can share is valuable. We can learn to interact differently with people without losing the core of who we are.


Hypnosis for Public Speaking is very effective and PSYCH-K® can address all the limiting beliefs that are holding us back from stepping out more.

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Design Your Life

A beautiful and brilliant girlfriend said to me a couple of days ago, “I design my life the way I love it”. I couldn’t help but think how this is the perfect motto for all of us.

What kind of a life are you designing, creating and manifesting for yourself?

What type of energy do you surround yourself with? Is your environment, your home, your office the way you want it? What are the people around you like? Did you know that the five people we associate with most affect our energy immensely? Often we become like them and they become like us.

If money or other limitations where no issue, what would the life you really want to have feel like?

You are the creator of your experience. You are the director of the movie called “My Life” while you at the same time get to act in it. There is no reason to suffer through your life. Pain is a part of life, but suffering is optional. Painful experiences are learning experiences. Suffering for years afterwards is a choice. At any given point in time, you can decide to change your beliefs, thoughts and feelings and have another experience right here, right now. Release and let go. The past is not a precedent for the present, or the future.

In the case of my girlfriend, who has had painful experiences in the past like all of us, the choice to design her life extends to her home, her exterior—she has a fabulous sense of style—and her inner world. She takes care of herself and seeks out relationships that are nurturing, stimulating and supportive. She asks herself what her needs are and makes sure she fulfills them. As a result, she is balanced and happy with herself. She is a joy to be around.

You can design your life as well. All it takes is to decide what you want to change, examine from which beliefs you have created what has shown up in your life so far and then change those beliefs on a subconscious level.


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A Natural and Gentle Transition Through Menopause

In most cases, menopause or “the change of life” is not a condition that requires drugs or HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). It is one of life’s natural transitions, just like birth, puberty, pregnancy and death. It is a gradual process which begins 3-5 years (or longer) before the final menstrual period occurs. Once a woman has not had her period for a year, menopause is considered complete.

There are many natural ways of supporting yourself during this transition. Your diet, your life style, and your mental and emotional states are all important factors in how you experience this time in your life: whether you will suffer or can smoothly and easily move through it.

Menopause is strongly connected to adrenal glandular function. Weak adrenal glands are the reason for hot flashes, depression, fatigue, nervousness, irritability, anxiety, memory difficulties, problems with blood sugar levels, and loss of libido.

Physical and emotional stress weakens the adrenals. Is your diet high in fried foods, processed foods, soft drinks, refined carbohydrates or white sugar? Do you smoke, drink, or take other drugs? Do you work long hours under fluorescent lights? Do you experience emotional or psychological stress?

It is therefore important to change your lifestyle and learn to relax. Physical exercise, a healthy diet and, most of all, a healthy state of mind are imperative.

The best way to allow the adrenals to recover is to change your diet. Beyond what you “put into your body,” it is as important what you “put into your mind.” What is your mind set; what stressful programs are you running and how do they make you feel?

It might not always be possible to reduce the stressors in your environment. However, it is always possible to change how you feel about something. Hypnosis provides an excellent stress reduction technique. Both hypnosis and Psych-K® are techniques to access the subconscious mind and to change our beliefs and thoughts. By changing our beliefs, we can change how we think and feel about certain situations and people. We gain the freedom to respond differently to outside stressors.

The more you can welcome and embrace this natural change in your life, the smoother the transition will be. Rather than regarding it as a loss of youth, why not welcome menopause into your life as a joyful new period, the beginning of a new freedom from your menstrual cycle? You can let go of fears of getting pregnant; there is no more need for birth control. Most women find that their problems with painful cramps, uterine fibroids, and headaches disappear. In fact, many women describe a surge of physical and psychological energy at that time. You can look forward to an energetic, active, worry-free and healthy period in your life.

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HYPNOSIS FOR BIRTH: Comfort Techniques

Do you believe that childbirth has to be painful?

We have been brainwashed by movies and by what people tell us into believing that giving birth has to be utterly painful. It has been suggested to us that labour is often an unmanageable experience without modern drugs. Yet, for centuries, women have been giving birth naturally.

There are several comfort techniques I teach women when they come for Hypnosis for Birth.

  1. Trance

Entering into a deep relaxation and trance state in itself is a comfort technique. The muscles in the body release their tension.


  1. Relaxed Muscles

All pain has a muscle-tension component, because this is how we guard against the pain. It is never an effective method to fight the discomfort. Relaxing into the pain makes it easier to cope.


  1. Breathing

Using different techniques to shifting from shallow breaths to slower, deeper breaths allows us to relax.


  1. Dissociation

“Stepping outside of your body” and going somewhere else in your mind, for example to a place you love, is a common technique. Some women feel like they are watching themselves have their baby. Dissociation is very powerful.


  1. Distance

We can get quite creative about distancing ourselves from discomfort, for example by putting the discomfort inside a box, a closet, or somewhere in your special relaxing place. Some women put a buffer between themselves and their perception of the discomfort, for example a plexiglass or plaster wall.


  1. Reframing/Substituting an Alternative Awareness

Another important way of changing the experience is reframing it from pain to discomfort or even something more comfortable like pressure, stretching, burning, warmth, tingling or numbness.


  1. Moving the discomfort to another part of your body

Bringing discomfort from deep inside your body up to the surface and letting it evaporate, or letting it flow down into your legs and into the earth helps to let go of the discomfort.


  1. Fast Time – Slow Time

Speeding up time during the contraction and slowing it down during the rest periods is a technique some women find very helpful. Time is to a great extent perception and we can alter our perception.


  1. Changing the image of the discomfort

Depending on how you perceive it in your mind, discomfort has an image: a size, colour, shape, temperature, even a consistency and density. By changing the image, we can change the discomfort to comfort. A hard, red, spiky and hot ball can, for example, turn into a pink, soft, warm and smooth ball.

In the same way you can change the image of a feeling, even uneasiness can be turned to calm and peace through imagery.


  1. Drawing in comfortable feelings

A simple breathing technique is drawing the feelings from the most comfortable part of your body and sending the comfort to the part of your body where it is needed most.


  1. Reminding yourself of the positive aspects of birth

What you tell yourself about the birthing experience is extremely important. You are the only thinker in your reality. Remind yourself that every contraction is good because it brings you closer to holding your baby.


  1.  Closing the “Gate”

Closing a “gate” to the uncomfortable middle section of the body and turning on the endorphin tap brings relief as well.


  1.  Analgesia

Learning to create numbness in your hand and transferring the numbness to other parts of your body, including your mid-section, is a technique some women get very good at.


For more information on learning Hypnosis for Birth, please contact Angelika




When somebody calls me up for a free consultation regarding past life hypnosis, one concern that sometimes comes up is, “Will it work?”

The secret to a successful past life regression is to let go and allow the images to flow. The more you can simply relax, trust and permit the story to tell itself, the smoother the experience. Doubt or worry blocks the flow. The time for analyzing is AFTER the regression is over. During hypnosis, it is best to simply go with what comes up.

A past life regression is a two hour session. After an initial talk about hypnosis, I begin by guiding you into a slight trance state, and we go back to two childhood memories. The childhood memories are an intermediate step. We are looking for happy or positive experiences as a child, not traumatic ones. Our goal, after all, is to go back to past lives and not to clear out traumas from this life.

We then relax you even further and regress back to past lives. I always aim for two past lives in the same session, as the lives often have the same topic or answer the same questions. Another benefit of going back to more than one life is that the second life very often comes up as more detailed. After having accessed one past life successfully, you realize that your concerns were unnecessary. It does work! You will relax even deeper and the second past life can flow in even more effortlessly.

As fascinating as it is to know what past lives we have had, the purpose of a past life regression is to gain insights for this life. We will examine what you have learned in those incarnations. The essential question is, “How does knowing about these past lives help me in my CURRENT life?” Your subconscious allows you to open the door to two past lives which are relevant for you now. It gives you the answers you seek to questions you might—or might not—consciously be aware of. All you need to do is allow the information to flow in.

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How Do I Keep My New Year’s Resolutions?

Every year at New Year’s, most of us look back at the old year. We reflect and review. What were our successes and happiest moments? What dreams are still waiting to be created, or what goals do we want to strive for? Popular resolutions are losing weight, quitting smoking, exercising, de-cluttering, gaining financial abundance, or finding a romantic relationship.

Sometimes we get a bit confused about what we want to manifest. We say, for example, we want more money, better health, or a loving relationship. We focus on a certain dollar amount, or on having to exercise and cut out food, or on searching for that one perfect partner.

In each case the question really is, what do you want to FEEL?

Money is a means to an end. What you really want might be to feel abundance, or freedom to do what you like.  Health is very abstract, and we can exercise and diet all we want and still not feel healthy and full of energy. We all need to find out what works for us as individuals to think and feel healthy. Love, again, is a feeling and is not bound to that one perfect relationship partner. When you begin to live loving relationships all around and you attract more love into your life, you become a magnet for the romantic partner you want.

No matter what dream or goal we have, no matter what we want to create in our lives, we ultimately want happiness. So it all begins with the decision to be happy. Let go of the past; stop rehashing the good and bad that’s over; stop worrying about the future; stop focusing on lack and on what you do not want! Decide to be happy right now, right here!

Pick one or two changes that you want to make and make them your first priority. Where attention goes, energy flows. And where your mental attention goes, your feelings follow. To experience what you want to experience, you begin with thinking what you want to feel.

Making changes and keeping your new year’s resolutions starts with changing your subconscious beliefs and thoughts. As you think differently, you are able to create better health, feel greater happiness and experience more abundance in every area of your life.


For belief change coaching, and techniques like hypnosis or Psych-K® to change your subconscious beliefs quickly and efficiently, contact Angelika: