Do you feel like other people are judging you? Are you holding yourself back from reaching your goals and from living life the way you want to because you are afraid of other people’s judgements? Are you critical and judgmental of yourself?
It might be time to embrace your judgmental self and all those traits that you fear other people will not like about you.
If we deny and hide all those things we don’t like about ourselves, we give them power. By starving those traits we make them hungry for attack. It is as if we have a white wolf and a black wolf inside us. Should we feed the white wolf or the black? Both! If we only feed the white wolf and try to starve the dark one, the later will wait for an opportunity to attack when we least expect it.
“Truth be told, there is a whole pack of wolves running around inside us – the loving wolf, the kindhearted wolf, the smart wolf, the sensitive wolf, the strong wolf, the selfless wolf, the openhearted wolf, and the creative wolf. Along with these positive aspects exists the dissatisfied wolf, the ungrateful wolf, the entitled wolf, the nasty wolf, the selfish wolf, the shameful wolf, the lying wolf, and the destructive wolf. Each day we have the opportunity to acknowledge all of these wolves. All these parts of ourselves, and we get to choose how we will relate to each of them. Will we stand in judgement on some and pretend some don’t exist or are we going to take ownership of the entire pack?” (Debbie Ford, Why Good People Do Bad Things, p.22)
The black wolf also has many important qualities we might need. The angry wolf for example helps us to stand up for ourselves, the dissatisfied wolf reminds us to satisfy our needs and desires, the selfish wolf makes sure we are not being taken advantage of, and so on.
If we feed them both by acknowledging their existence and owning them, they will no longer fight to get our attention by surprising us with sudden attacks of that suppressed emotion. We can use each of them as needed.
Are you ready to acknowledge and own all the black wolves so you can live in harmony with all of yourself?
Mark your calendars for the
Shadow Energetics Workshop
taught by Darryl Gurney.
Dates: May 10-13, 2013
Location: Candlelight Drive, Mississauga
Register: Call or email me
For more detailed information on course content go to the calendar page.